L L6 L laapono 'puma '90C •oN luomma 4inpy NCoilatiK. Lesson Titles for the Quarter 1. The Home Is Built 2. The Home Is a Partnership 3. Parents in the Home 4. Finding Joy in Worship 5. Discipline in the Modern Home 6. Making Spiritual Values Relevant 7. The Home—Primary Center of Education 8. Health Values in the Home 9. Recreation Through Play and Hobby 10. Economics in the Home 11. Love, the Home's Foundation 12. Giving, the Greatest Joy 13. A Foretaste of Heaven Sabbath School Lesson Quarterly (regular edition), No. 306, October•December, 1971. 35 cents a single copy, $1.40 a year (four issues) ; no additional charge to countries requiring extra postage. Published in the U.S.A. by Pacific Press Publishing Association (a corporation of S.D.A.), 1350 Villa Street, Mountain View, California 94040. Second-class mail privileges authorized at Mountain View, California. Form 3579 requested. When a change of address is desired, please be sure to send both old and new addresses. Copyright 1971 by Pacific Press Publishing Association Cover photos by D. Tank; A. Devaney, Inc.; H. Armstrong Roberts; Eric Kreye; De Wys, Inc. Illustrations by James Converse The Blessing of Daily Study "Every day some portion of time should be appropriated to the study of the lessons, not merely in learning to me- chanically repeat the words, while the mind does not com- prehend the meaning; but to go to the very foundation, and become familiar with what is brought out in the lesson." —Counsels on Sabbath School Work, page 53. My Pledge As one who greatly desires to improve his knowledge of the Scriptures, I pledge myself to the careful and prayerful study of some portion of my Sabbath School lesson each day of the week. (signed) Home ReDation FOURTH QUARTER, 1971 The common practice of relegating the discipline and training of children and young people to agencies outside the home is altogether devastating in its results. Contrary to what is sometimes supposed, the youth crave from their parents the leadership and guidance without which they feel unsure of themselves. Reasonably, there comes the question: What are parents for? Not simply to supply food and shelter and physical necessities, although this is a great and wonderful service in itself. Parents are also counselors, builders of char- acter, teachers of truth. They must not abdicate their position as parents. They are those to whom God has given children, with the prime respon- sibility as molders and shapers of manners and morals and faith. It is the purpose of the lessons for this quarter to review the duties of parents and to determine how they may best accomplish their task. In the great revival and reformation that is to take place in the church, there is no better place to begin than in the home. And for the great thrust of worldwide evangelism, no finer preparation can be made than that which takes place at the family altar and in the hearts of each member of God's great household of faith. Of a preparation for camp meeting years ago Ellen G. White made this statement: "At home is the place to find Jesus; then take Him with you to the meeting, and how precious will be the hours you spend there. . . . Pre- pare your children for the occasion. Teach them that it is not of so much consequence that they appear with fine clothes as that they appear before God with clean hands and pure hearts. . . . Even unbelievers will feel the holy atmosphere as they enter the encampment. . . . It will be to your soul even as the gate of heaven."—Testimonies, Vol. 5, pages 164, 165. The duty upon parents is much more than merely to provide. It is also to teach and train, to counsel, and, as necessary, to correct—to live the part of parents, with gentleness and firmness so intermixed as never to avoid wise discipline or the doing of duty; to show forth leadership, and remember never to leave out love. Let us pray for the outpouring of the Holy Spirit on our homes as we study the lessons for this quarter. 4 LESSON 1 October 2 THE HOME IS BUILT 1 "Except the Lord build the house, they labor in vain that build it." Psalm 127:1. The divine plan in the creation of man is to lead the human race to trust solely on was that human society should be com- human judgment and neglect the plan of posed of families. In the Garden of Eden God in this foundation unit of our society. God set forth the pattern for future genera- 3. Man must make the choice. He can tions by establishing the first home. The follow the plan designed for him by God, family unit was the base upon which the or he can choose to ignore it. He cannot be human race was to be built. From this neutral with respect to this matter. He first home were to ensue families after the cannot be passively interested, for lack of pattern established in Eden, for it was interest means negligence. The fact that there that the nature and purpose of the we choose God's plan for the home means home began to be revealed. So important that we must have an active interest in is the home to the human race that with- it. To do less is to court failure. out a true understanding of its nature and purpose the disintegration of human so- ciety will result. The aim of •this lesson is LESSON OUTLINE to present those elements of family struc- 1. God, the Architect ture as revealed in the plan of God and to point out how each family can best fulfill Gen. 1:27, 28 this purpose. 2. Man, the Builder KEY THOUGHTS Prov. 24:3, 4 1. God is the Author of the home. He has furnished the blueprint. The plan is 3. The Role of the Husband perfect; no improvement can be made Eph. 5:23 upon it. Every plan He designed has suc- ceeded, and those who follow His plan 4. The Role of the Wife may be assured of success. Prov. 18:22 2. On the other hand, Satan is well aware that if the home disintegrates, all 5. The Role of the Children God's plans for the human race will be Eph. 6:1-3 seriously crippled. Consequently the evil one is determined to destroy the home in 6. The Purpose of the Home any way he can. His most efficient method Ps. 144:12 The Home Is Built LESSON 1 0 Sunday September 26 Part 1 "So God created man in His own image, in the image GOD, THE of God created He him; male and female created He them. ARCHITECT And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruit- ful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that Gen. 1:27, 28 moveth upon the earth." Does the Bible give us an indication of how God began the first home? Gen. 2:18-24. In the creation of the home God designed that the mother and father should form the basis of the family. Society was not to arrange its existence on any kind of communal group- ing. What was to give the human family its distinctive char- acter was the permanent relationship which was to exist be- tween mother and father. The family was to depend upon these two for its mental, spiritual, and physical resources. How long was this relationship to exist between the man and the woman? Matt. 19:3-9. When, in God's plan, did the first family become complete? Gen. 4:1, 2. The command to "replenish the earth" is as important to the plan of God in the creation of the home as the declaration, "And they shall be one flesh." "A childless house is a desolate place. The hearts of the in- mates are in danger of becoming selfish, of cherishing a love for their own ease, and consulting their own desires and con- veniences. They gather sympathy to themselves, but have little to bestow upon others."—The Adventist Home, page 159. THINK IT THROUGH If the mother and father form the basis of the family, are the parents totally responsible for the strength or weakness of that home? Is conceiving children within the family situation the only way completely to fulfill God's plan for the home? "Society is composed of families, and nation is the household. The well-being is what the heads of families make of society, the success of the church, the it. Out of the heart are 'the issues of prosperity of the nation, depend upon life' (Prov. 4:23); and the heart of the home influences."—"The Ministry of community, of the church, and of the Healing," page 349. FOR FURTHER STUDY: "The Adventist Home," pages 25-28. 6 The Home Is Built LESSON 1 ❑ Monday September 27 Part 2 "Through wisdom is an house builded; and by under- MAN, THE BUILDER standing it is established: and by knowledge shall the Prov. 24:3, 4 chambers be filled with all precious and pleasant riches." What must be the first consideration in the building 14, of a home? "The first work to be done in a Christian home is to see that the Spirit of Christ abides there, that every member of the household may be able to take his cross and follow where Jesus leads the way."—The Adventist Home, page 20. As with the church, so with the home, Jesus Christ must be "the Chief Cornerstone, in whom all the building fitly framed together groweth unto an holy temple in the Lord." Eph. 2:20, 21. "It is only in Christ that a marriage alliance can be safely formed. Human love should draw its closest bonds from divine love. Only where Christ reigns can there be deep, true, unselfish affection."—The Ministry of Healing, page 358. If we wish Christ to occupy the central place in our home, what must we do? Rev. 3:20. What is the next consideration in making the home what God intended for it to be? Rom. 12:10. "Tender affection should ever be cherished between husband and wife, parents and children, brothers and sisters. Every hasty word should be checked, and there should not be even the appearance of lack of love for one another."—The Advent- ist Home, page 198. THINK IT THROUGH What does it mean to make Christ the center of the home? What are some of the ways parents and children can manifest their love toward each other? "God desires that heaven's plan be seen in all our families, in our in- shall be carried out, and heaven's di- stitutions, in our churches. When this vine order and harmony prevail, in transformation takes place, these agen- every family, in every church, in every cies will become instrumentalities by institution. Did this love leaven society, which God will impart heaven's light we should see the outworking of noble to the world and thus, through divine principles in Christian refinement and discipline and training, fit men and courtesy, and in Christian charity women for the society of heaven."— toward the purchase of the blood of "Testimonies," Vol. 8, p. 140. Christ. Spiritual transformation would FOR FURTHER STUDY: "The Ministry of Healing," pages 356-362. 7 The Home Is Built LESSON 1 ❑ Tuesday September 28 Part 3 "For the husband is the head of the wife, even as THE ROLE OF Christ is the head of the church: and He is the Saviour of THE HUSBAND the body." Eph. 5:23 That the father is the head of the home is a principle estab- lished within the plan of the home which God created. How- ever, this idea has been grossly misunderstood by some. To be head of the home means that the father should be director of the home, not the dictator. He is not a lord but a leader. He stands at the head of the family not as sovereign but as a source of physical and spiritual strength. He is as willing to listen as he is to speak, as willing to follow counsel as he is to give it. What makes him the head of the home is that he can be trusted to seek for that which is the very best for his family. It must be remembered that he is the head of the home as Christ is the head of the church. What should the husband's attitude be toward his wife? Eph. 5:28. "He should cultivate refinement and courtesy. He should be very tender and gentle toward his wife, who is his equal in every respect; he should not utter a word that would cast a shadow upon her heart."—Testimonies, Vol. 4, pp. 36, 37. The husband must make sure that in all his relationships with his wife he maintains that dignity which has been be- stowed by God on all His human creatures. He should always hold her in honor and respect. 1 Peter 3:7. What should be the husband's attitude toward his children? Eph. 6:4; Col. 3:21; Ps. 103:13. "Give some of your leisure hours to your children; become acquainted with them; associate with them in their work and in their sports, and win their confidence. Cultivate friendship with them, especially with your sons. In this way you will be a strong influence for good."—The Ministry of Healing, pages 391, 392. THINK IT THROUGH In seeking the best for his family, should a father impose his will or opinion as to what constitutes the best? "The father is to stand at the head life is to be directed and restrained by of his family, not as an overgrown, un- the pure principles of the Word of disciplined boy, but as a man with God."—"The Adventist Home," page manly character and with his passions 213. controlled. . . . His conduct in his home FOR FURTHER STUDY: "The Adventist Home," pages 211-224. 8 The Home Is Built LESSON 1 ❑ Wednesday September 29 Part 4 "Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and ob- THE ROLE OF taineth favor of the Lord." THE WIFE Prey. 18:22 What is the wife's place in the home? Gen. 2:21-22. If the husband is the head, the wife could be said to be the heart of the home. As the physical body needs both head and heart, so the family is dependent on both mother and father. Equal in importance, they each play a different role. They complement each other but do not compete. She partici- pates with the father in the direction of the family. Prov. 31:26. She helps her husband and children toward the goal that God holds before them. She brings the refinement and strength of her femininity and makes it an influence in the home. What should the wife's attitude be toward her hus- band? "The wife is to respect her husband. The husband is to love and cherish his wife; and as their marriage vow unites them as one, so their belief in Christ should make them one in Him." —The Adventist Home, page 114. The woman who takes to herself prerogatives in the home which were never intended for her, and then excuses her course of action by suggesting that she does so because her husband is a weak man, is no better than a tyrannical man who imposes his overbearing authority on his family. The wife must remem- ber that equality and respect should be given to the husband as well as to the wife. It is true that respect is earned, but weakness never becomes strength by being dictated to. A true wife will do her best to strengthen the husband and show him respect for the sake of the children. THINK IT THROUGH Is it the wife's place to help her husband, if he is weak, to become head of the home in reality? Are there any real reasons for the mother to seek employment? "Woman should fill the position Let woman realize the sacredness of which God originally designed for her, her work and in the strength and fear as her husband's equal. The world of God take up her life mission. Let needs mothers who are mothers not her educate her children for usefulness merely in name but in every sense of in this world and for a home in the the word. We may safely say that the better world."—"The Adventist Home," distinctive duties of woman are more page 231. sacred, more holy, than those of man. FOR FURTHER STUDY: "The Adventist Home," pages 231-273. 2—A4Qt71 The Home Is Built LESSON 1 ❑ Thursday September 30 Part 5 "Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is THE ROLE OF right. Honor thy father and mother; which is the first THE CHILDREN commandment with promise; that it may be well with Eph. 6:1-3 thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth." D What relationship did God design should exist be- tween children and parents? Ex. 20:12. "This is the first commandment with promise. It is binding upon childhood and youth, upon the middle-aged and the aged. There is no period in life when children are excused from honoring their parents. This solemn obligation is binding upon every son and daughter and is one of the conditions to their prolonging their lives upon the land which the Lord will give the faithful. This is not a subject unworthy of notice, but a matter of vital importance."—The Adventist Home, page 2 92 . What should be the attitude of parents toward their children? Eph. 6:4. "Remember that children •have rights which must be re- spected."—Ibid., p. 306. "Let none imagine . . . that harshness and severity are necessary to secure obedience. . . . There is danger of too severely criticizing small things. Criticism that is too severe, rules that are too rigid, lead to the disregard of all regulations; and by and by children thus educated will show the same dis- respect for the laws of Christ."—Ibid., pp. 308, 309. THINK IT THROUGH Does a parent always know what is good for his chil- dren? Must a parent receive the honor and respect of his children even if he does not deserve it? When does a child's financial obligation toward his parents cease? "God cannot prosper those who go happiness of the children themselves, directly contrary to the plainest duty as well as the honor of God and the specified in His Word, the duty of chil- good of society. Children should learn dren to their parents. . . . If they dis- that in submission to the laws of the respect and dishonor their earthly par- household is their perfect liberty. Chris- ents, they will not respect and love tians will learn the same lesson—that their Creator."—"The Adventist Home," in their obedience to God's law is their page 293. perfect freedom."—"Child Guidance," "Prompt and continual obedience to page 79. wise parental rule will promote the 10 The Home Is Built LESSON 1 ❑ Friday October I Part 6 "That our sons may be as plants grown up in their THE PURPOSE youth; that our daughters may be as cornerstones, pol- OF THE HOME ished after the similitude of a palace." Ps. 144:12 The home is not to be a self-contained, uninvolved entity. It is not merely a place for humans to live and breed and die. It is not merely for the propagation of the human race. It has a higher destiny and purpose. The mission of the home ex- tends beyond its own members. "The Christian home is to be an object lesson, illustrating the excellence of the true principles of life."—The Ministry of Healing, page 352. "The Christian home is God's insurance of righteousness in the earth. The home can never be completely abolished without the race's slipping into promiscuity of sex relations, disintegra- tion of government, and spiritual slavery. . . . To the extent that the ideal home is deprived of its rightful place and pow- ers, to that extent will civilization descend. On the other hand, the more the home is built up to its original plan and purpose, and the better parents and prospective parents are fitted for their duties, the more virtuous, competent, and stable will be both state and society."—A. W. Spalding, Makers of the Home, page 29. "A well-ordered Christian household is a powerful argu- ment in favor of the reality of the Christian religion—an argu- ment that the infidel cannot gainsay. All can see that there is an influence at work in the family that affects the children, and that the God of Abraham is with them. If the homes of professed Christians had a right religious mold, they would exert a mighty influence for good. They would indeed be the 'light of the world.'"—The Adventist Home, page 36. THINK IT THROUGH Can a home really fulfill the plan of God when it shuts itself from all others and considers only its own existence? What are some of the things that parents can do in the home to help their children become involved in service? "It is no small matter for a family to epistles known and read of all men. stand as representatives of Jesus, keep- This position involves fearful responsi- ing God's law in an unbelieving corn- bilities."—"The Adventist Home," pages munity. We are required to be living 31, 32. FOR FURTHER STUDY: "The Adventist Home," pages 31-35; "The Ministry of Heal- ing," pages 388-394. 11 The Home Is Built LESSON 1 Part 7 G SUMMARY QUESTIONS G TO TEST YOUR STUDY POWER 1. Who is the architect of the home? 2. Who is the builder of the home? 3. The father is to be a dictator , director , in the home. He should rule over , respect his wife. 4. True or False. The wife is to run the home if the husband is weak in leadership 5. That children should obey parents "is not a subject unworthy of notice, PI but a of 6. The home is to serve as and a (The answers are at the bottom of the page.) Timm atp. ;o ;OH Mossaf 4nalqo uu (9) :aaueliodur! MIA `Jauutu (5) :aqua :padsa2 'aotaaitp (g) !uuttz (g) !PoO (I) :saamsulf 12 LESSON 2 October 9 THE HOME IS A PARTNERSHIP 2 "Fulfill ye My joy, that ye be likeminded, having the same love, being of one accord, of one mind." Phil. 2:2. The nature of the home is best under- LESSON OUTLINE stood when one looks at it as a unit. To be successful it must be a partnership. Its 1. Love the Prime Requisite success depends on cooperation. The 1 Cor. 13:13 strength of the home will be seen in its corporate activity. As the home is the 2. Mutual Respect Is Essential basic unit in society, a truly Christian 1 Cor. 7:3, 4 home will be a light to the world and a means of drawing others into the fulfill- 3. Mutual Forbearance ment of God's purpose. 1 Cor. 13:4-7 As we spend this week studying the home in its structure as a partnership, we must 4. A Share in Home Planning keep in mind some of the guiding prin- Amos 3:3 ciples of any joint activity. We shall see how, by applying these principles in the 5. A Loving Dialogue home, we can enhance the unity of the Prov. 18:21 family and develop between parents and children a relationship which will bring 6. A Common Faith enduring happiness and joy. 2 Cor. 6:14 13 The Home Is a Partnership LESSON 2 ❑ Sunday October 3 Part 1 "And now abideth faith, hope, charity [love], these LOVE THE PRIME three; but the greatest of these is charity." REQUISITE 1 Cor. 13:13 The foundation of the home must be love—the love which is not primarily an emotion, but a principle. Love can only be understood in the light of the cross. At the cross the be- liever in Christ sees the fullest expression of that love. There Christ showed His ultimate concern; there He demonstrated love which would go to any length to provide the best for His own. If parents in a home are motivated in their thoughts and actions by such a principle, they can form a partnership that will bear the irritations of life and leave for their children a legacy that will prepare them for a future with God. "Love is a precious gift, which we receive from Jesus. Pure and holy affection is not a feeling, but a principle. Those who are actuated by true love are neither unreasonable nor blind. Taught by the Holy Spirit, they love God supremely, and their neighbor as themselves."—The Ministry of Healing, pages 358, 359. Love "doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked." 1 Cor. 13:5. Why would the apostle encourage all parents to "put on love"? Col. 3:14. THINK IT THROUGH What is there about love that makes for a binding partnership? What is the difference between love as a principle and love as an emotion? Can there be true love in a home when one partner imposes his will upon the other? "Let each give love rather than should merge his or her individuality exact it. Cultivate that which is noblest in that of the other. Each has a per- in yourselves, and be quick to recog- sonal relation to God. Of Him each is nize the good qualities in each other. to ask, 'What is right?' What is The consciousness of being appreciated wrong?' How may I best fulfill life's is a wonderful stimulus and satisfac- purpose?' Let the wealth of your af- tion. Sympathy and respect encourage fection flow forth to Him who gave His the striving after excellence, and love life for you. Make Christ first and last itself increases as it stimulates to nobler and best in everything."—"The Min- aims. istry of Healing," page 361. "Neither the husband nor the wife FOR FURTHER STUDY: "The Adventist Home," pages 105-113. 14 The Home Is a Partnership LESSON 2 ❑ Monday October 4 Part 2 "Let the husband render unto the wife due benevo- MUTUAL RESPECT lence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. The IS ESSENTIAL wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his 1 Cor. 7:3, 4 own body, but the wife." If there is one thing above another which will create a rift in any marriage partnership, it is the desire of one partner to be above the other. Supremacy in marriage is not a worth- while object to strive for. A true partnership in marriage can be achieved only when each shows respect to the other and treats him as an equal. In the Christian home the husband is to treat the wife with goodwill, honoring and cherishing her, learning to understand her needs and desires as she will learn to respect his. "Neither the husband nor the wife should attempt to exer- cise over the other an arbitrary control. Do not try to compel each other to yield to your wishes. You cannot do this and retain each other's love. Be kind, patient, and forbearing, con- siderate, and courteous. By the grace of God you can succeed in making each other happy, as in your marriage vow you promised to do."--The Ministry of Healing, page 361. What does Peter say should be the relationship exist- ing between husbands and wives? 1 Peter 3:7. The very warmth of the love that binds two hearts to- gether, the closeness of contact of two lives joined as one, are to be guarded with devout prayer and watchful care. THINK IT THROUGH What do we mean by the equality of husband and wife? In what way could husbands and wives best show their respect for each other? "If the will of God is fulfilled, the ance, and love will find that the same husband and wife will respect each spirit will be reflected upon him. Where other and cultivate love and confi- the Spirit of God reigns, there will be dence. Anything that would mar the no talk of unsuitability in the marriage peace and unity of the family should relation. If Christ incleed is formed be firmly repressed, and kindness and within, the hope of glory, there will be love should be cherished. He who man- union and love in the home."—"The ifests the spirit of tenderness, forbear- Adventist Home," page 120. FOR FURTHER STUDY: "The Ministry of Healing," pages 356-362. 15 The Home Is a Partnership LESSON 2 ❑ Tuesday October 5 Part 3 "Charity suffereth long, and is kind; . . . beareth all MUTUAL things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth FORBEARANCE all things." 1 Cor. 13:4-7 In marriage two individuals come closer and discover more about each other than in any other association in life. This is why the early period of marriage is a critical time. The care with which each has gone through the courtship tends to slip as the trials of living become very real. The weaknesses that had been zealously controlled begin to show through. It is very easy to see defects. If each learns the lessons of patience and forbearance, the partnership will grow strong and that strength will help each partner to overcome the defects that may be part of his character. The assurance of success in the building of a home lies in mutual love and forbearance. "Though difficulties, perplexities, and discouragements may arise, let neither husband nor wife harbor the thought that their union is a mistake or a disappointment. Determine to be all that it is possible to be to each other. Continue the early attentions. In every way encourage each other in fighting the battles of life. Study to advance the happiness of each other. Let there be mutual love, mutual forbearance. Then marriage, instead of being the end of love, will be as it were the very beginning of love."—The Ministry of Healing, page 360. What admonition to all Christians applies especially to husbands and wives? Rom. 12:10. "We cannot cherish home affection with too much care; for the home, if the Spirit of the Lord dwells there, is a type of heaven. . . . If one errs, the other will exercise Christlike for- bearance and not draw coldly away."—The AdveittiirlThme, page 118. THINK IT THROUGH Is there ever a time when a husband or wife can come to the limit in forbearance? What is the relationship between forbearance and infidelity? "Without mutual forbearance and that you may be everything to each love no earthly power can hold you other that God's Word requires. When and your husband in the bonds of you reach the condition that the Lord Christian unity. Your companionship in desires you to reach, you will find the marriage relation should be close heaven below and God in your life." and tender, holy and elevated, breath- —"The Adventist Home," page 112. ing a spiritual power into your lives, FOR FURTHER STUDY: "The Adventist Home," pages 114-128. 16 The Home Is a Partnership LESSON 2 111 Wednesday October 6 Part 4 "Can two walk together, except they be agreed?" A SHARE IN HOME PLANNING Our text provides a very important thought which will make a home either a partnership or a chaotic situation. In Amos 3:3 too many cases husbands and wives find themselves at variance as to how to govern the home. There are those who think that because they are the head of the home all decisions are to be made by them irrespective of how the wife feels. This was never the plan of God in the forming of the home. A home which is run on this basis may soon disintegrate, and the hus- band and wife often go their separate ways before many summers come and go. When the prophet says that it is diffi- cult for two to walk together unless they are agreed, he is suggesting an essential principle of a happy home. Both hus- band and wife hold the responsibility for the home. They are both to come together and share in the destiny of their chil- dren. Counseling together, they are to plan a course of action which will help the whole family toward God and heaven. It is good for any husband and wife to remember the words of Eccl. 4:9-12. In giving man a companion, how did God emphasize this principle of corporate planning and action by hus- band and wife? Gen. 2:18. "The happiness and prosperity of the marriage relation depends upon the unity of the parties."—Patriarchs and Prophets, page 174. As a "helpmeet" the wife is to be a coun- selor and help in the building of the home. THINK IT THROUGH What can a wife do when she finds herself not being included in any of the decisions having to do with her home? What are the ways in which a wife can truly be a fellow planner of the home? What part should a wife play in the devotional aspect of the home? "Let the husband and wife study should they in the presence of the chil- each other's happiness, never failing dren criticize each other's plans or inkrillToTrrtesies e smc and little kindly question each other's judgment. Let the acts that cheer and brighten the life. wife be careful not to make the hus- Perfect confidence should exist between band's work more difficult. Let the husband and wife. Together they husband hold up the hands of his wife, should consider their responsibilities. giving her wise counsel and loving en- Together they should work for the couragement."—"The Ministry of Heal- highest good of their children. Never ing," pages 393, 394. FOR FURTHER STUDY: "The Ministry ofHealing," pages 371-378. 17 3—A4Qt71 The Home Is a Partnership LESSON 2 ❑ Thursday October 7 Part 5 "Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and A LOVING they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof." DIALOGUE Prov. 18:21 More unhappiness can result from a communications failure than from any other one cause. When problems and disagree- ments arise, many couples aggravate the trouble by a failure to discuss their problems. But it is only by a free and open exchange between husband and wife that many a disagreement can be avoided. Two people who are truly in love desire to know each other more and more as the years go by. In this knowledge they will find a closeness which will bind them together and will be a source of strength for each as they face the problems of life together. In no better way can this be accomplished than by an exchange of thoughts and ideas, of goals and ambitions. There is no place in the Christian home for a wife to live in loneliness because of a lack of communi- cation. There is no place in the Christian home for a man or wife to speak only in grunts or well-aimed stinging words. The marriage will grow ever sweeter and stronger in the ex- change of words that represent a living and loving dialogue. THINK IT THROUGH How much should a wife say to her husband about herself? And he about himself? What are the important things that husband and wife should talk about? What conversations should they avoid when the children are present? It takes a rugged purpose, and daily "A house with love in it, where touch with God, and pure habits of love is expressed in words and looks life for married people to continue the and deeds, is a place where angels respect for each other and the little love to manifest their presence and courtesies with which their friendship hallow the scene by rays of light from began. But if there is genuine rever- glory. There the humble household ence for God, there will certainly be duties have a charm in them. None due respect, admiration, and charity of life's duties will be unpleasant to for each other. your wife under such circumstances. She will perform them with cheerful- "'Let knowledge grow from more to ness of spirit and will be like a sun- more beam to all around her, and she will But more of reverence in us be making melody in her heart to the dwell; Lord. . . . There is a serious lack of That mind and soul'according love's precious influence which leads well, to kindly attentions. Love should be May make one music as before. seen in the looks and manners and But vaster." heard in the tones of the voice."—"The —Tennyson Adventist Home," page 109. FOR FURTHER STUDY: "Messages to Young People," pages 453-466. 18 The Home Is a Partnership LESSON 2 ❑ Friday October 8 Part 6 "Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbe- A COMMON FAITH lievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with un- 2 Cor. 6:14 righteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?" Unless husband and wife see eye to eye in the basic ele- ments of religious faith, they cannot be one in purpose. So far as possible, then, provision for this unity should be made at the very beginning, by selecting a mate from the same church fellowship. It is granted that being members of the same church does not in itself ensure spiritual unity. And sometimes the faith of either husband or wife may grow cold or their experience may undergo a change. Still it is no ad- vantage, indeed it is folly, to accept consciously such a divi- sion at the beginning. Why did Moses admonish the Israelites not to inter- marry with the Canaanites? Deut. 7:3, 4. "There is in the Christian world an astonishing, alarming indifference to the teaching of God's Word in regard to the marriage of Christians with unbelievers. Many who profess to love and fear God choose to follow the bent of their own minds rather than take counsel of Infinite Wisdom. In a matter which vitally concerns the happiness and well-being of both parties for this world and the next, reason, judgment, and the fear of God are set aside, and blind impulse, stubborn determination, is allowed to control. . . . All this is as Satan would have it. . . . It is no easy thing to decide what advice can be given to these unfortunate ones, or how their hard lot can be lightened; but their sad experience should be a warn- ing to others."—Testimonies, Vol. 5., pp. 365, 366. THINK IT THROUGH Can this principle of not marrying an unbeliever ap- ply to an Adventist who has no real experience with God? "Let those who are contemplating Christian will make no plans that God marriage weigh every sentiment and cannot approve. watch every development of charac- "If you are blessed with God-fearing ter in the one with whom they think parents, seek counsel of them. Open to to unite their life destiny. Let every them your hopes and plans, learn the step toward a marriage alliance be lessons which their life experiences characterized by modesty, simplicity, have taught, and you will be saved sincerity, and an earnest purpose to many a heartache. Above all, make please and honor God. Marriage af- Christ your counselor. Study His Word fects the afterlife- both in this world with prayer."—"The Ministry of Heal- and in the world to come. A sincere ing," page 359. FOR FURTHER STUDY "The Adventist Home," pages 434-443. 19 OL Answers: (1) love; (2) True, False, False; (3) early attentions, happiness; (4) Gen. 2:18; (5) communications; (6) unbelievers would lead them from God. (.abed 9q; Jo tuo4log ;e 9ae siamisue agy) e:sai!unnunD alp twm lou salqauisj ay qp sasow q2nonp iasunop pop pp Alm -9 ul unnopInazq in ainlluj uana pun ssauIdduqun jo asnup jam y -s 21.1!ulteld Allurnj In at pun aimadooD w apm pun until Joj papuailn pop imp sn salansnw sIsaupp intim 17 c,•Jalpo liana jo aqi aounApe of Apms • • ay anunuoD„ .E passazdaz aq pings aDuanagioj zo ssauzapuai Jo molts jIH pailuoD Aanziwe qsqquisa [Tunis punqsnq a2-epinul in innuassa st loadsai teninw :asind zo anu epuloq aqi ut dmsiamind atm e Joj ansInbaz aunid ay s! inqm •1 tI3MOd Aanis snoA 1S31 01 G SNOIIS3flO Alivwwns O L 4"d NOSS31 dztj&tauuvd V sj autoH atu LESSON 3 PARENTS IN THE HOME "Children's children are the crown of old men; and the glory of children are their fathers." Prov. 17:6. It is the parents who provide the foun- more time keeping in touch with the latest dation upon which the home is built. The on cars and houses than on how best to success of any home is in a great degree prepare their children for life. And initial dependent upon the character and direction preparation is not enough. There must be of the parents. They are the builders of the a continual learning. home. Their influence molds it for good or 3. Dedication—There is no such thing for evil. This responsibility is, of course, as weekend parenthood. There is too much one which rests upon both parents. No man of the feeling that during the week it is can plead that his business does not allow up to the school and that the parents' con- him to fulfill his part. For it does not mat- cern is only for the weekend. The task of ter how devoted the mother is to the task, parenthood is a work which asks for the the absence of the father in this work will whole of the parent's life. This may seem stand in the way of any lasting results. to be asking a lot, but if you give life to There are certain responsibilities that par- children, they demand the attention. A par- enthood imposes, and in this lesson we ent then must be dedicated to the task of shall call attention to some which are im- caring for and training his children until portant in making parenthood a success. they are launched into life. The commit- ment is truly demanding, but the rewards KEY THOUGHTS are worth the effort. 1. Preparation—Parenthood is not a duty into which one stumbles without fore- thought. When we talk about planned par- LESSON OUTLINE enthood, the emphasis is usually upon con- trolling the conception of children. It would 1. Family Morale be well to shift the emphasis to the quali- Prov. 15:4 fications of the parents, for much thought- ful consideration should go into the roles 2. Teaching of the mother and the father of a child. Deut. 6:7 The responsibilities which this step involves should be entered into with all seriousness. 3. Religious Education There should be a physical, mental, and Deut. 6:4-7 spiritual preparation in the planning for children. When a child is born, two par- 4. Discipline ents are made. Then it is too late to won- Eph. 6:1-4, Phillips der whether they are fit or ready for such an undertaking. 5. Courtesy—Etiquette 2. Education—As a parent you have a 1 Peter 3:8, Phillips responsibility to your children to keep abreast of what is best and proper for 6. Healthful Living them. There are those parents who spend 3 John 2, Phillips 21 Parents in the Home LESSON 3 ❑ Sunday October 10 Part 1 "A wholesome tongue is a tree of life: but perverse- FAMILY MORALE ness therein is a breach in the spirit." Prov. 15:4 Spirit and atmosphere of the home is primarily a responsi- bility of the parents. The cheerfulness of the home will depend on how parents relate to life with its hardships or its joys. The parents can promote a spirit of tranquillity and peace or a spirit of contention. This is determined by the parents' atti- tudes and words. It will be determined also in their disposi- tion. Theirs will be either a spirit of optimism, faith, and love, or one of pessimism, unbelief, and hostility. The children's attitude toward religion and toward the church will be deter- mined to a great degree by the attitudes of their parents to these things. And this attitude and outlook on every part of life will be carried from the home into the world. "Parents, be cheerful, not common and cheap, but be thankful and obedient and submissive to your heavenly Father. You are not at liberty to act out your feelings if things should arise that irritate. Winning love is to be like deep waters, ever flowing forth in the management of your chil- dren. They are the lambs of the flock of God. Bring your little ones to Christ. If parents would educate their children to be pleasant, they should never speak in a scolding manner to them. Educate yourself to carry a pleasant countenance, and bring all the sweetness and melody possible into your voice. The angels of God are ever near your little ones, and your harsh loud tones of fretfulness are not pleasant to their ears." —The Adventist Home, page 432. Knowing the influence of words, what does the apostle suggest about our speech at all times? Col. 4:6. THINK IT THROUGH If a child develops a spirit of contention and bitter- ness, is it always the parent's fault? How does a parent develop a spirit which will contribute to his children's disposition? "Home should be a place where surround their children with an atmos- cheerfulness, courtesy, and love abide; phere of cheerfulness, courtesy, and cnd where these graces dwell, there love. A home where love dwells, and will abide happiness and peace. Trou- where it is expressed in looks, in bles may invade, but these are the words, and in acts, is a place where lot of humanity. Let patience, grati- angels delight to manifest their pres- tude, and love keep sunshine in the ence. heart, though the day may be ever so "Parents, let the sunshine of love, cloudy. In such homes angels of God cheerfulness, and happy contentment abide."—"The Ministry of Healing," enter your own hearts; and let its page 393. sweet, cheering influence pervade your "Above all things else, let parents home."—"Child Guidance," page 146. FOR FURTHER STUDY: "Child Guidance," pages 146-149. 22 Parents in the Home LESSON 3 ❑ Monday October 11 Part 2 "And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy chil- TEACHING dren, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when Deut. 6:7 thou liest down, and when thou risest up." It was always the plan of God that parents should be the teachers for their children. When Israel was brought out of Egypt, He again emphasized the work of the parents as teach- ers. Unfortunately in many instances this has been overlooked by modern parents. They have relinquished their responsibil- ity and left it all for the teacher in the school. However, the school is to be a supplement for the work which is done in the home by mothers and fathers. In the final analysis, it is in the home where children are prepared for school and for life. See The Adventist Home, page 185. The responsibility of being teachers to their children is most important, and to neglect it is to rob the children of that which will prepare them for life. "Parents should not lightly regard the work of training their children, nor neglect it upon any account. They should employ much time in careful study of the laws which regu- late our being. They should make it their first object to be- come intelligent in regard to the proper manner of dealing with their children, that they may secure to them sound minds in sound bodies."—Child Guidance, pages 21, 22. According to the wise man, why is parental teaching so important? Prov. 22:6. THINK IT THROUGH Why is the instruction of parents so important to a child? What are some of the things.which children can learn from parents which they may not receive in school? "Will parents review their work in can look down from heaven and by the the educating and training of their gift of His Spirit sanctify their efforts? children, and consider whether they Parents, it may be yours to prepare have done their whole duty in hope your children for the highest usefulness and faith that these children may be in this life, and to share at last the a crown of rejoicing in the day of the glory of that which is to come."— Lord Jesus? Have they so labored for "Child Guidance," page 25. the welfare of their children that Jesus FOR FURTHER STUDY: "The Adventist Home," pages 181-186. 23 Parents in the Home LESSON 3 Tuesday October 12 Part 3 "Hear, 0 Israel: The Lord our God is one Lord: and RELIGIOUS thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thine heart, and EDUCATION with all thy soul, and with all thy might. And these words, which I command thee this day, shall be in thine heart: and thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy Deut. 6:4-7 children." A child first learns about God from his parents. He should also learn from his parents the place that God should hold in his life. He catches the sincerity and reality of God from the relationship of his parents with God. The foundation, then, for the religious life of the child is laid by the parents, and on this foundation is built their future spiritual faith. The meaning of God is learned at home. If God is not taken se- riously, this attitude will be passed along to the children. If the children never see their parents pray, they will consider that God does not matter much. This makes the practice of family worship important. For when it is entered into with iiriTifityFrdeirotionrwhen the children see their parents in this act of commitment and worship, the children will come to believe in the importance of God for life. The worship time will then become a symbol to the whole family that God stands at the center of all family activity. It will be seen by the children that the Bible is more than a book for display; it is truly a book for life. And in this religious education of the family both father and mother should share. THINK IT THROUGH How can we make the relationship with God a reality to our children? What are some of 'the reasons for the neglect of worship in the home? Who should take the initiative in the religious education of the children? Why? "From the earliest age a wise edu- thinking that they will come out all cation in Christ's lines is to be begun right in the future and, as they get and carried forward. When the chil- older, will of themselves be anxious dren's hearts are impressible, they are for a religious experience. Cannot you to be taught concerning eternal reali- see, parents, that if you do not plant ties."—"The Adventist Home," page the precious seeds of truth, of love, of 320. heavenly attributes, in the heart, Satan "Parents make a most terrible mis- will sow the field of the heart with take when they neglect the work of tares?"—"Ibid.," p. 319. giving their children religious training, FOR FURTHER STUDY: "The Adventist Home," pages 317-325. 24 Parents in the Home LESSON 3 ❑ Wednesday October 13 Part 4 "Children, the right thing for you to do is to obey your DISCIPLINE parents as those whom God has set over you. The first commandment to contain a promise was: Honor thy father and thy mother that it may be well with thee, and that thou mayest live long on the earth. Fathers, don't over- correct your children or make it difficult for them to obey Eph. 6:1-4, the commandment. Bring them up with Christian teaching Phillips in Christian discipline." What is the duty of children to parents and the duty of parents to children? Col. 3:20, 21. Of all the responsibilities that fall to parents, discipline is perhaps the most delicate. It is here that the relationship be- tween parent and child will be made or broken. It is in the realm of discipline that the parent must look seriously and earnestly into his own heart. For discipline may flow either from emotional troubles or out of a heart that loves enough that it may have to hurt in order to help. In many cases dis- cipline is a form of retaliation on the child for his "affront" to parental authority. What are the results of correct home discipline? "One of the first lessons a child needs to learn is the lesson of obedience. Before he is old enough to reason, he may be taught to obey. By gentle, persistent effort, the habit should be established. Thus, to a great degree, may be prevented those later conflicts between will and authority that do so much to create alienation and bitterness toward parents and teach- ers, and too often resistance of all authority, human and divine ."—Education , page 287. THINK IT THROUGH Who is responsible for the discipline in the home? What does it mean to provoke your children? Is physical discipline a good way to teach children obedience? "It requires skill and patient effort parents is heavy indeed. Evil tenden- to mold the young in the right man- cies are to be carefully restrained and ner. Especially do children who have tenderly rebuked; the mind is to be come into the world burdened with a stimulated in favor of the right. The heritage of evil, the direct results of child should be encouraged in attempt- the sins of their parents, need the ing to govern himself. And all this is most careful culture to develop and to be done judiciously, or the purpose strengthen their moral and intellectual desired will be frustrated."—"Child faculties. And the responsibility of the Guidance," page 228. FOR FURTHER STUDY: "Counsels to Teachers," pages 111-118. 25 4-A4Qt71 Parents in the Home LESSON 3 ❑ Thursday October 14 Part 5 "To sum up, you should all be of one mind living like COURTESY— brothers with true love and sympathy for one another, ETIQUETTE generous and courteous at all times." 1 Peter 3:8, Phillips Training in courtesy and etiquette in many homes is over- looked as something that belongs only to the rich and the elite in society. This attitude is the result of a misunderstanding of courtesy and etiquette. There is much more to etiquette and courtesy than simply doing the right thing at the right time. These are social disciplines which express thoughtfulness and respect to others. To be courteous is to be thoughtful. Eti- quette codifies thoughtfulness in such a way that it may become a guide in our treatment of people as we leafn to be considerate of others. A Christian should be naturally the most thoughtful person. To teach children courtesy with some rules of etiquette is to teach them to be thoughtful and con- siderate of others. "The principles of heaven are to be brought into the government of the home. Every child is to be taught to be polite, compassionate, loving, pitiful, courteous, tender- hearted."—Child Guidance, page 143. THINK IT THROUGH What are some rules of etiquette which are valuable to a Christian? Is it possible for a Christian to be re- fined? What are some of the ways that a parent can teach his children how to be courteous? "The essence of true politeness is make him considerate and tender, gen- consideration for others. The essen- erous and helpful toward the young, tial, enduring education is that which the old, and the unfortunate, and cour- broadens the sympathies and encour- teous toward all is a failure."—"The ages universal kindliness. That so- Adventist Home," page 423. called culture which does not make a "A kind, courteous Christian is the youth deferential toward his parents, most powerful argument that can be appreciative of their excellences, for- produced in favor of Christianity."— bearing toward their defects, and help- "Gospel Workers," page 122. ful to their necessities; which does not FOR FURTHER STUDY: "Child Guidance," pages 143-145. 26 Parents in the Home LESSON 3 ❑ Friday October 15 Part 6 "My heartfelt prayer for you, my very dear friend, is HEALTHFUL that you be as healthy and prosperous in every way as LIVING you are in soul." 3 John 2, Phillips What should parents teach their children regarding their bodies? 1 Cor. 6:19, 20. Of all the responsibilities which have been overlooked by parents most frequently is one which pertains to healthful living. Yet the present and future happiness of their children depends on their understanding and obeying the rules of health. Much of the illness which plagues thousands could be avoided if only, as children, they had been given the right instruction in health. "The first study of the young should be to know themselves and how to keep their bodies in health."—Testi- monies, Vol. 3, p. 142. "In the early education of children, many parents and teachers fail to understand that the greatest attention needs to be given to the physical constitution, that a healthy condi- tion of body and brain can be secured. "The future happiness of your families and the welfare of society depend largely upon the physical and moral educa- tion which your children receive in the first years of their life." —Child Guidance, page 103. THINK IT THROUGH Why is it difficult to hold to the middle of the road in discussions relating to health? How can this problem be rectified? What areas of life does health reform cover? "Healthful living must be made a ease. If in your effort you can see no family matter. Parents should awake special improvement, be not discour- to their God-given responsibilities. Let aged• patiently instruct, line upon line, them study the principles of health re- precept upon precept, here a little and form and teach their children that the there a little. . . . Press on until the path of self-denial is the only path of victory is gained. Continue to teach safety."—"Child Guidance," page 104. your children in regard to their own "Teach your children to study from bodies, and how to take care of them. cause to effect; show them that if they Recklessness in regard to bodily health violate the laws of their being, they tends to recklessness in moral charac- must pay the penalty by suffering dis- ter."—"Ibid." FOR FURTHER.STUDY: "The Ministry of Healing,;" pages 295-310.. 27 Parents in the Home LESSON 3 Part 7 G SUMMARY QUESTIONS G TO TEST YOUR STUDY POWER 1. "Home should be a place where , and abide." 2. What is the most important responsibility of parents? 3. True or False: A child first learns about God in Sabbath School or church A child can begin learning eternal realities at the earliest age Most children will turn out all right if allowed to wait until they want religious training 4. What is the influence of a good Christian home? 5. "The essence of true politeness is for 6. "Recklessness in regard to bodily tends to recklessness in )1 (The answers are at the bottom of the page.) ..ramentin Flout `toinati (g) :siatoo Mowerappuon (s) !suoturas Ire arotu (y) !asieg 'only `asiga (s) !uaipptio aptp simpem 2uiaq (s) :ono' 'Asa;anon `ssaumpaatio (I) :sianksuy 28 LESSON 4 October 23 FINDING JOY IN WORSHIP 4 "Let us therefore come boldly unto the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy, and find grace to help in time of need." Heb. 4:16. The core of Christian experience is found altar along with faithful attendance at in worship. If we read our Saviour's life Sabbath worship services and prayer meet- and works aright, especially the beginning ing would do much to bridge the "genera- of the Sermon on the Mount, we find that tion gap" we hear so much about today. one of His chief concerns is for the happi- ness of those who are called by His name. LESSON OUTLINE Surely, then, the most central experience of life should be the most joyful. We think 1. Worship Is Natural to the of prayer in its broadest aspects as the chief Christian expression of worship in the Christian life. The person who finds the true joy inherent Ps. 95:1, 2, 6, 7 in the Christian experience will indeed be 2. The Need and Place of Worship able to come boldly, joyfully, to the throne of grace. Even when coming for mercy and in the Home help, one can find a note of joy from the Job 1:5 assurance that our coming to Him is not in vain. 3. The Scriptures and Worship This lesson is designed to explore the Ps. 119:105 possibilities of the family altar as a means of making the worship of God the truly 4. Preparation for Public Worship thrilling and joyful experience it can and Ex. 20:8-11 should be. Whether the home is of a child- less couple or a large family, the time of 5. Sabbath Worship worship can be not only a joyful experi- Hab. 2:20 ence, but a stabilizing influence as well. The saying that "The family that prays 6. Sabbath Opportunities for together, stays together" is still true. It Study and Service may be that the establishment of the family Mark 2:27 29 Finding Joy in Worship LESSON 4 ❑ Sunday October 17 Part 1 "0 come, let us sing unto the Lord: let us make a WORSHIP IS joyful noise to the Rock of our salvation. Let us come NATURAL TO before His presence with Thanksgiving, and make a joy- THE CHRISTIAN ful noise unto Him with psalms." "0 come, let us worship and bow down: let us kneel before the Lord our Maker. For He is our God; and we are the people of His pasture, and the sheep of His Ps. 95:1, 2, 6, 7 hand." There is a joyful note throughout this psalm. What seems to be the basic reason for joyfulness? Ps. 95:7. From the very beginning man has worshiped. Worship and love welled up in the hearts of Adam and Eve even after they were driven from their Eden home. "The fallen race were long permitted to gaze upon the home of innocence, their entrance barred only by the watch- ing angels. At the cherubim-guarded gate of Paradise the divine glory was revealed. Hither came Adam and his sons to worship God."—Patriarchs and Prophets, page 62. Jacob's experience when he was fleeing from his brother's wrath illustrates man's normal desire to call upon God. "And Jacob awaked out of his sleep, and he said, Surely the Lord is in this place; and I knew it not. And he was afraid, and said, How dreadful is this place! this is none other but the house of God, and this is the gate of heaven. And Jacob rose up early in the morning, and took the stone that he had put for his pillows, and set it up for a pillar, and poured oil upon the top of it. And he called the name of that place Bethel. . . . This stone, which I have set for a pillar, shall be God's house." Gen. 28:16-22. How does the psalmist symbolize our need for com- munion with God? Ps. 42:1. THINK IT THROUGH What does it mean to worship? Why does man need to worship? Is going to church the only way to worship? "God desires His obedient children that so little praise is offered. He de- to claim His blessing and to come be- sires to have a stronger expression fore Him with praise and thanksgiving. from His people, showing that they . He has done for His chosen people know they have reason for joy and that which should inspire every heart gladness."---"Testimonies," Vol. 6, page with thanksgiving, and it grieves Him 364. FOR FURTHER STUDY: "The Great Controversy," pages 433-438; "Patriarchs and Prophets," page 336; "The Desire of Ages," pages 154-166. 30 Finding Joy in Worship LESSON 4 ❑ Monday October 18 Part 2 "Job sent and sanctified them, and rose up early in the THE NEED AND morning, and offered burnt offerings according to the PLACE OF WORSHIP number of them all." IN THE HOME The experience of Job reveals to all the need and place of Job 1:5 worship in the home. Man is a dependent creature in need of - assistance in living. We are not only dependent on God for the air we breathe but also for His protection from danger and from the forces of evil. Worship is the acknowledgment of this dependence on God and thanksgiving for God's care over us. For a Christian home, worship is as essential as the meals and the shelter that it provides. These provisions are essential for the physical well-being of the family. Worship is essential for the spiritual as well as the physical safety of the family. "Before leaving the house for labor, all the family should be called together; and the father, or the mother in the fath- er's absence, should plead fervently with God to keep them through the day. Come in humility, with a heart full of ten- derness, and with a sense of the temptations and dangers before yourselves and your children; by faith bind them upon the altar, entreating for them the care of the Lord. Ministering angels will guard children who are thus dedicated to God." —Child Guidance, page 519. What is the Biblical assurance that God will hear and answer the prayers of parents and children at such ses- sions of worship? James 5:16? THINK IT THROUGH What are some of the ways by which worship can be made living and dynamic? What are some of the things that might discourage a young person in worship? "If ever there was a time when tians have no family worship. They do every house should be a house of not honor God in the home; they do not prayer, it is now. Infidelity and skep- teach their children to love and fear ticism prevail. Iniquity abounds. Cor- Him. Many have separated them- ruption flows in the vital currents of selves so far from Him that they feel the soul, and rebellion against God under condemnation in approaching breaks out in the life. Enslaved by sin, Him. They cannot 'come boldly unto the moral powers are under the tyr- the throne of grace,' lifting up holy anny of Satan. The soul is made the hands, without wrath and doubting.' sport of his temptations; and unless Hebrews 4:16; 1 Timothy 2:8. They some mighty arm is stretched out to have not a living connection with God. rescue him, man goes where the arch- Theirs is a form of godliness without rebel leads the way. the power."—"Child Guidance," pages "And yet, in this time of fearful 517,518. peril, some who profess to be Chris- FOR FURTHER STUDY: "The Ministry of Healing," pages 395-401. 31 Finding Joy in Worship LESSON 4 ❑ Tuesday October 19 Part 3 "Thy Word is a lamp unto my feet, and a light unto THE SCRIPTURES my path." AND WORSHIP Ps. 119:105 The Scriptures are a revelation of God and His purpose for man. In order for a person to know what his life on earth is to mean he must become acquainted with what God has re- vealed in the Scriptures. There He has had written for our good the origins of the human race, the reasons for the crea- tion of man, and the purpose for life. The reason man has gone so far astray is that he has thwarted the plan and pur- pose of God for himself. Man realizes that something is wrong and is endeavoring in every imaginable way to solve his di- lemma, in many cases without God. For man to regain his lost estate he must discover the perfect plan of God for His creation and accept that plan as the guide to abundant living. The Bible reveals not only the plan but also man's problem and the solution to his problem. The act of worship, whether family or public, is the way by which man comes face to face with the will and love of God as revealed in the Scriptures. "We all need a guide through the many strait places in life as much as the sailor needs a pilot over the sandy bar or up the rocky river, and where is this guide to be found? We point you, dear brethren, to the Bible. Inspired of God, written by holy men, it points out with great clearness and precision the duties of both old and young. . . . Take it as the man of your counsel, the rule of your daily life."---Testimonies, Vol. 5, p. 264. What does the apostle say the Scriptures are good for? And to what point will they lead in the fulfillment of God's plan for man? 2 Tim. 3:16, 17. THINK IT THROUGH Should the Scriptures be considered as a book of in- structions to be followed like a rule book? In what way will the Bible help me to find the purpose for my life? "In arousing and strengthening a to the interest of the children if they love for Bible study, much depends on are sometimes permitted to select the the use of the hour of worship. The reading. Question them upon it, and hours of morning and evening wor- let them ask questions. . . . ship should be the sweetest and most "To make such a service what it helpful of the day. Let it be understood should be, thought should be given to that into these hours no troubled, un- preparation. And parents should take kind thoughts are to intrude; that par- time daily for Bible study with their ents and children assemble to meet children. No doubt it will require effort with Jesus, and to invite into the home and planning and some sacrifice to the presence of holy angels. . . . Let accomplish this; but the effort will be all join in the Bible reading and learn richly repaid."—"Education," page 186. and often repeat God's law. It will add FOR FURTHER STUDY: "Counsels to Teachers," pages 107-118. 32 Finding Joy in Worship LESSON 4 ❑ Wednesday October 20 Part 4 "Remember the Sabbath day, to keep it holy. Six days FAMILY WORSHIP, A shalt thou labor, and do all thy work: but the seventh PREPARATION FOR day is the Sabbath of the Lord thy God: in it thou shalt PUBLIC WORSHIP not do any work, thou, nor thy son, nor thy daughter, thy manservant, nor thy maidservant, nor thy cattle, nor thy stranger that is within thy gates: for in six days the Lord made heaven and earth, the sea, and all that in them is, and rested the seventh day: wherefore the Lord Ex. 20:8-11 blessed the Sabbath day, and hallowed it." Thus far we have been discussing the place of worship in the home. However, family worship is not an end in itself but moves on to a wider form of worship. Worship in the home may very easily be seen as a preparation for that expanded worship we experience in the weekly church services. Much of the spiritual awareness which may be received in Sabbath wor- ship can be lost through the week as one pursues his livelihood. The daily worship at home helps to maintain the spiritual sensitivity which has been gained at such convocations. It prepares for the coming Sabbath. Too many wait for the last fleeting moments of the working .part of the week to prepare physically and spiritually for the Sabbath. It is no wonder that little is received by some at worship services. When six days have been filled only with bargaining, work, and television, the mind cannot shift so quickly to the spiritual. For what higher worship does the Sabbath worship in turn prepare us? Isa. 66:22, 23. "To the humble, believing soul, the house of God on earth is the gate of heaven. The song of praise, the prayer, the words spoken by Christ's representatives, are God's appointed agen- cies to prepare a people for the church above, for that loftier - worship into which there can enter nothing that defileth."— Testimonies, Vol. 5, p. 491. THINK IT THROUGH In what ways does the family worship prepare me for Sabbath worship? Why does the Bible speak so much about worship? "We do not obtain a hundredth part shipers. As you enter the place of wor- of the blessing we should obtain from ship, ask the Lord to remove all evil assembling together to worship God. from your heart. Bring to His house Our perceptive faculties need sharpen- only that which He can bless. Kneel ing.. . . before God in His temple, and conse- "We must carry to every religious crate to Him His own, which He has gathering a quickened spiritual con- purchased with the blood of Christ"— sciousness that God and His angels are "Testimonies," Vol. 6, pp. 362, 363. there, cooperating with all true wor- FOR FURTHER STUDY: "Testimonies," Vol. 6, pp. 349-356. 33 5—A4Qt71 Finding Joy in Worship LESSON 4 ❑ Thursday October 21 Part 5 "The Lord is in His holy temple: let all the earth keep SABBATH WORSHIP silence before Him." Hab. 2:20 Prepared by our daily worship and private devotions we now carry that personal relationship with God with us into the higher worship on the Sabbath. It is a divine appointment which should be taken seriously. For we as creatures are to come before the great God who is our loving Father. In view of this fact, what attitude should characterize our conduct in the house of God? Eccl. 5:1. "If some have to wait a few minutes before the meeting begins, let them maintain a true spirit of devotion by silent meditation, keeping the heart uplifted to God in prayer that the—service may be of special benefit to their own Heart's and lead to the conviction and conversion of other souls."—Testi- monies, Vol. 5, p. 492. What is the parent's responsibility regarding his chil- dren and church worship? "Too often children are allowed to grow up without religion because their parents think they are too young to have Chris- tian duties enjoined upon them. . . . "Parents stand in the place of God to their children to tell them what they must do and what they must not do with firmness and perfect self-control. Every effort made for them with kindness and self-control will cultivate in their characters the elements of firmness and decision. . . . "Fathers and mothers are in duty bound to settle this ques- tion early so that the child will no more think of breaking the Sabbath, neglecting religious worship and family prayer than he would think of stealing. Parents' own hands must build the barrier."—The Adventist Home, page 320. THINK IT THROUGH Is it true that a family that worships together is in reality able to solve its differences and problems? Why is this so? "The temple of God is opened in dren] to have the highest reverence for heaven, and the threshold is flushed the house of God and to understand with the glory which is for every church that when they enter the lord's house that will love God and keep His corn- it should be with hearts that are mandments."—"Testimonies," Vol. 6, p. softened and subdued."—"Ibid.," Vol. 368. 5, p. 494. "Parents, . . . teach them [the chil- FOR FURTHER STUDY: "Testimonies," Vol. 6, pp. 356-358. 34 Finding Joy in Worship LESSON 4 ❑ Friday October 22 Part 6 "And He said unto them, The Sabbath was made for SABBATH OPPORTU- man, and not man for the Sabbath." NITIES FORiLLMY AND SERVICE A study of the experience of Christ and His disciples in a grainfield on the Sabbath brings to mind the greatest lesson we can learn about the Sabbath. If the Sabbath was truly made for man, what guidance can this give us for Sabbath activity? Why was man given a Sab- bath? Is there ever an occasion when one may transgress the Sabbath commandment and not sin? Matt. 12:11, 12. Aside from the study of His Word, in what other way may we know about God? Ps. 19:1. "We are not to teach our children that they must not be happy on the Sabbath, that it is wrong to walk out-of-doors. Oh, no. Christ led His disciples out by the lakeside on the Sabbath day and taught them. His sermons on the Sabbath were not always preached within enclosed walls."—Child Guidance, pages 533, 534. "Teach the children to see Christ in nature. Take them out into the open air, under the noble trees, into the garden; and in all the wonderful works of creation teach them to see an expression of His love. ... Do not weary them with long prayers and tedious exhortations, but through nature's object lessons teach them obedience to the law of God."—The Desire of Ages, pages 516, 517. THINK IT THROUGH What are good Sabbath missionary activities? How can I best use the gift of the Sabbath as a means of developing my Christian experience and that of my children? "As the sun goes down, let the voice "As long as they live the instruction of prayer and the hymn of praise mark given in childhood and youth will be the close of the sacred hours and invite a blessing."—"Testimonies," Vol. 6, p. God's presence through the cares of the 359. week of labor. "As God ceased His labor of creat- "Thus parents can make the Sabbath, ing, and rested upon the Sabbath and as it should be, the most joyful day of blessed it, so man is to leave the occu- the week. They can lead their children pations of his daily life, and devote to regard it as a delight, the day of those sacred hours to healthful rest, to days, the holy of the Lord, honor- worship, and to holy deeds."—"The De- able.... sire of Ages," page 207. FOR FURTHER STUDY: "The Ministry of Healitig," pages 409-426. 35 Finding Joy in Worship LESSON 4 Part 7 G SUMMARY QUESTIONS G TO TEST YOUR STUDY POWER 1. The core of Christian experience is found in 2. What promise is made regarding children who are dedicated to the Lord each morning in family worship> 3. Parents should take time for with their children. 4. How does family worship contribute to worship on Sabbath? 5. What responsibility do parents have regarding their children and the service of the church> 6. What other study can we enter into on Sabbath besides the study of the Bible> (The answers are at the bottom of the page.) •a.m4eu (g) :dnisionn pus o2 04 mato tpra4 (g) !S41n14isuas iummds mem= schati (v) :6pn4s ama (E) !marl; pren2 sla2uu (g) :d!risioin (j) : siamsuV 36 LESSON 5 October 30 DISCIPLINE IN THE MODERN HOME 5 "And whosoever will, let him take the water of life freely." Rev. 22:17. In an age characterized by a general low- teachers, and others in authority. We shall ering of moral standards and a continuing spend this week discussing how this idea disregard for law and law enforcement, of discipline finds a place in the modern parents find value in taking time to think home. through the subject of discipline. Here we have a term used quite commonly by peo- ple on all levels of society, yet one which LESSON OUTLINE is much misunderstood. While the usual connotation is that of restraint and force, 1. Objectives of Discipline to get a valid meaning for discipline we Prov. 22:6 must see it in its relation to the individual. A follower requires a leader, and good dis- 2. When Should Discipline Begin? cipline is the art of leading. Judges 13:12 Wherever there are personal relation- ships, there must be a place for discipline. 3. Discipline With Consistency It is for this reason that we should know Luke 2:51 what it is and what its objectives are. The primary objective of the discipline of chil- 4. When Discipline Corrects dren is to train them for self-government. Prov. 13:24 It is impossible to think seriously of training a person for self-government with- 5. Attitudes in Discipline out getting into a discussion of the will. Eph. 6:1, 4 The training of the will to ensure a per- son's being able to make intelligent de'ci- 6. Patience in Discipline sions should be the first work of parents, Gal. 6:9 37 Discipline in the Modern Home LESSON 5 ❑ Sunday October 24 Part 1 "Train up a child in the way he shall go: and when OBJECTIVES OF he is old, he will not depart from it." DISCIPLINE Prov. 22:6 How would you distinguish between "training" and "education"? "The training of children must be conducted on a different principle from that which governs the training of irrational animals. The brute has only to be accustomed to submit to its master; but the child must be taught to control himself. The will must be trained to obey the dictates of reason and con- science. A child may be so disciplined as to have, like the beast, no will of its own, his individuality being lost in that of his teacher. Such training is unwise, and its effect disastrous."— Fundamentals of Christian Education, page 57. Is God's government one of coercion? Gen. 2:16, 17; 3:6. The government of God has no place for coercion. He sets before us some natural alternatives and then allows us to choose. Happy the child whose parents help develop in him this ability to choose. 1). Give another example of God's dealing with man. Joshua 24:15. The child must learn to recognize that in most cases par- ental restrictions are for his protection. Just as God's love and His desire for our happiness are the basis for His com- mandments, so the child must see the parents' love as the reason for some prohibitions. THINK IT THROUGH The freedom which children, at least adolescents, so much want lies in the right to make decisions. What process would you follow to develop this freedom in a child? "The object of discipline is the train- should be enlisted on the side of obe- ing of the child for self-government. dience. Let all dealing with him be such He should be taught self-reliance and as to show obedience to be just and self-control. Therefore as soon as he is reasonable."—"Education," page 287. capable of understanding, his reason FOR FURTHER STUDY: "Child Guidance," pages 223-228. 38 Discipline in the Modern Home LESSON 5 ❑ Monday October 25 Part 2 "And Manoah said, Now let thy words come to pass. WHEN SHOULD How shall we order the child, and how shall we do unto DISCIPLINE BEGIN? him?" Judges 13:12 The question Manoah asked typifies the most important concern a parent may have. It is strange that schools "compass heaven and earth" for subjects to teach children, but largely neglect the one profession that the majority enter—parenthood. It is perhaps significant that the angel's reply to Manoah's question dealt largely with the conduct. Can you think of some problems prospective parents should solve in their own lives before the child is born? What family problem is represented among the signs of the last days? 2 Tim. 3:2. The timing of disciplinary training in the growth of the child is of utmost importance. When should this training begin? "The moment that the child begins to choose his own will and way, that moment his education in discipline is to begin. This may be called an unconscious education. It is then that a work, conscious and powerful, is to begin."—Child. Guidance, page 230. What part do parents play in the child's choice con- cerning salvation? "It is because so many parents and teachers profess to believe the Word of God while their lives deny its power, that the teaching of Scripture has no greater effect upon the youth." —Education, page 259. THINK IT THROUGH What relationship does the child's obedience to par- ents have to future obedience to the law of God? "Parents, you fail generally to begin own will. Some who go astray because your work early enough. You let Satan of neglect in childhood will later, preoccupy the soil of the heart by put- through the inculcation of practical les-• ting in the first crop of seed. sons, come to their senses; but many "You have a work to do that Satan are lost forever because in childhood shall not gain the control of your chil- and youth they received only a partial, dren and take them away from you one-sided culture. The child who is before they are out of your arms."— spoiled has a heavy burden to carry "Child Guidance," page 195. throughout his life."—"Counsels to "It is impossible to depict the evil Teachers," page 112. that results from leaving a child to its FOR FURTHER STUDY: "Child Guidance," pages 229-232. 39 Discipline in the Modern Home LESSON 5 ❑ Tuesday October 26 Part 3 "And He went down with them, and came to Naza- DISCIPLINE WTH reth, and was subject unto them: but His mother kept CONSISTENCY all these sayings in her heart." Luke 2:51 In today's world, with the emphasis on freedom of choice and the importance of individual growth, the question of dis- cipline and its relevancy demands serious consideration. That discipline is best which prepares for self-government and aids individual development. "It is the work of true education to . . . train the youth to be thinkers, and not mere reflectors of other men's thought. Instead of confining their study to that which men have said or written, let students be directed to the sources of truth, to the vast fields opened for research in nature and revelation. Let them contemplate the great facts of duty and destiny, and the mind will expand and strengthen."—Education, page 17. What inconsistency is shown in the experience of Isaac and Rebekah in dealing with their children? Genesis 27 and 28. "If the parents are united in this work of discipline, the child will understand what is required of him. But if the father, by word or look, shows that he does not approve of the discipline the mother gives, if he feels that she is too strict, and thinks that he must make up for the harshness by petting and indulgence, the child will be ruined. . . . Parents who are committing this sin against their children are accoun- table for the ruin of their souls."—Child Guidance, page 239.. How did compromise as a "proof" of love work out in the experience of Aaron? Lev. 10:1, 2. THINK IT THROUGH In what ways might parental affection be an obstacle to true training? "Aaron's criminal neglect to com- the commands of their father, as they mand the respect and reverence of his disregarded parental authority, they sons resulted in their death. . . . did not realize the necessity of ex- "Here is seen the result of loose dis- plicitly following the requirements of cipline. As these sons of Aaron had not God."—"Testimonies," Vol. 3, pp. 294, been educated to respect and reverence 295. FOR FURTHER STUDY: "Child Guidance," pages 233-243. 40 Discipline in the Modern Home LESSON 5 ❑ Wednesday October 27 Part 4 "He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that WHEN DISCIPLINE loveth him chasteneth him betimes." CORRECTS Prov. 13:24 This bit of wisdom from the Proverbs is in modern times a subject of considerable controversy. No doubt a connection is made in the minds of many with the chastening of the Lord. 1). What purposes do you see in either parental or heav- enly chastening? Heb. 12:5-11. "The work of 'breaking the will' is contrary to the principles of Christ. The will of the child must be directed and guided. Save all the strength of the will, for the human being needs it all; but give it proper direction. Treat it wisely and ten- derly, as a sacred treasure. Do not hammer it in pieces; but by precept and true example wisely fashion and mold it until the child comes to years of responsibility."—Counsels to Teachers, page 116. While there does seem to be a possible connection between pain and obedience, at least in the small child, the parent faces the responsibility of determining when his demands are the result of his own whims and when they are essential to the child's welfare. We must be sure our correction of children is not more for ourselves than for the children. "Never correct your child in anger. An exhibition of passion on your part will not cure your child's evil temper. That is the time of all times when you should act with humility and patience and prayer. Then is the time to kneel down with the children and ask the Lord for pardon."—Ibid., p. 117. THINK IT THROUGH "Parents have a great work to do in the matter of correcting and training their children, and in bringing them to God, and claiming His blessing upon them." —"Ibid.," page 118. "If milder measures prove insuffi- training, and the consequent strength- cient, punishment that will bring the ening of wrong tendencies, makes his child to its senses should in love be after education more difficult, and administered. Frequently one such cor- causes discipline to .be too often a pain- rection will be enough for a lifetime, ful process. Painful it must 'be to the to show the child that he does not hold lower nature, crossing, as it does, the the lines of control."—"Counsels to natural desires and inclinations."—"Ed- Teachers," page 116. ucation," pages 295, 296. "The neglect of the child's earliest FOR FURTHER STUDY: "Child Guidance," pages 244-257. 41 6-A4Qt71 Discipline in the Modern Home LESSON 5 ❑ Thursday October 28 Part 5 "Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is ATTITUDES IN right." "And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to DISCIPLINE wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition Eph. 6:1, 4 of the Lord." It should ever be remembered that the child's obedience to the parent is qualified—"in the Lord." There may come a time in a child's life when obedience to God will necessitate the breaking of the family tie. But the parent also has a re- sponsibility to ensure that his correction is always a step toward development of a Christian character. There should be a purpose in all activity related to the home and children. "The true teacher is not satisfied with second-rate work. . . . He cannot be content with imparting to them only tech- nical knowledge, with making them merely clever accountants, skillful artisans, successful tradesmen. It is his ambition to inspire them with principles of truth, obedience, honor, in- tegrity, and purity—principles that will make them a positive force for the stability and uplifting of society. He desires them, above all else, to learn life's great lesson of unselfish service."—Education, pages 29, 30. Perhaps the most difficult question in discipline, especially when it includes correction and punishment, is that of parental attitude. What two ingredients are pointed out as essential in the attitude of the parent? "Love has a twin sister, which is duty. Love and duty stand side by side. Love exercised while duty is neglected will make children headstrong, willful, perverse, selfish, and disobedient. If stern duty is left to stand alone without love to soften and win, it will have a similar result. Duty and love must be blended in order that children may be properly disciplined." —Testimonies, Vol. 3, p. 195. Should children be recognized as some of the "others" mentioned in the golden rule? Does this mean they should get the same treatment as parents? Luke 6:31. THINK IT THROUGH Justice and mercy are twin sisters who stand side by side and should not be separated. "God's method of government is an unnoticed. Should they neglect to cor- example of how children are to be rect the children for doing wrong, God trained. There is no oppression in the will hold them accountable for their Lord's service, and there is to be no neglect. But let them be sparing of oppression in the home or in the school. censure. 'Let kindness be the law of the Yet neither parents nor teachers should home and of the school."—"Counsels allow disregard of their word to pass to Teachers," page 155. FOR FURTHER STUDY: "Child Guidance," pages 258-268. 42 Discipline in the Modern Home LESSON 5 ❑ Friday October 29 Part 6 "And let us not be weary in well-doing: for in due PATIENCE IN season we shall reap, if we faint not." DISCIPLINE Gal. 6:9 So many times we reserve the promises of God's Word for the work we do outside the family circle. We fail to see our own home as the first and greatest mission field the world affords. Which do you think would add more members to the church, all of our children in the church, or the fruit of public evangelism? Should we give more attention to both? In the first commandment with promise, is there some responsibility on the part of the parent to be worthy of the honor due him? Ex. 20:12. What is said about the wisdom and strength we need for the duty we must perform? John 15:5. "Let not one word of fretfulness, harshness, or passion escape your lips. The grace of Christ awaits your demand. His Spirit will take control of your heart and conscience, presiding over your words and deeds. Never forfeit your self-respect by hasty, thoughtless words. See that your words are pure, your conversation holy. . . . Let there be peace, pleasant words, and cheerful countenances. "Parents cannot with safety be in any way overbearing. They must not show a masterly, criticizing, faultfinding spirit. . . . Patient continuance in well-doing is essential if you would do your duty to your children."—Child Guidance, page 219. THINK IT THROUGH What are some of the ways a child may honor his parents? Summarize your thoughts on true discipline as you consider the Christian's duty to present to the world well-ordered, well-disciplined families—families that will show the power of true Christianity. "In our efforts to correct evil, we "Parents should keep ever before should guard against a tendency to their minds the object to be gained— faultfinding or censure. Continual cen- the perfection of the characters of their sure bewilders, but does not reform. children. Those parents who educate With many minds, and often those of their children aright, weeding from the finest susceptibility, an atmosphere their lives every unruly trait, are fitting of unsympathetic criticism is fatal to them to become missionaries for Christ effort. Flowers do not unfold under the in truth, in righteousness, in holiness." breath of a blighting wind."—"Educa- —"Counsels to Teachers," page 162. tion," page 291. FOR FURTHER STUDY: "Child Guidance," pages 279-287. 43 Discipline in the Modern Home LESSON 5 Part 7 0 SUMMARY QUESTIONS O TO TEST YOUR STUDY POWER 1. In the small child, obedience is the first step in 2. Why do youth often disregard the teaching of Scripture) 3. When parents fail to unite in the work of discipline, what can be the result? 4. The use of the rod may at times be necessary in the training of a child, but it should be used only in " and and 5. While children are taught obedience to their parents, fathers are instructed that they should not their children to anger. 6. The work of rearing a family requires a great deal of on the part of the parents. (The answers are at the bottom of the page.) •aouat;sd (9) !asionoid (9) :39.ets.ul 'asuaRed `Almumq (t) :pup ati; upu (s) :iamod s41 Auap &1st/seal pus slimed Jo swill (g) :2uuns.0 (t) :srasssuy 44 LESSON 6 November 6 diefi) MAKING SPIRITUAL VALUES RELEVANT WOG "And this is life eternal, that they might know Thee the only true God, and Jesus Christ, whom Thou hast sent." John 17:3. God wants us to know Him. That is why 2. How to Live. Christ must live in me. He desires to live with us and in us. He, Col. 1:27. If Christ is in me, I will be a the Source of all life, has three dwelling delightful person in the home. All my fac- places: Heaven is His throne, the center ulties will be used to enrich and benefit of His universe (Ps. 103:19) ; a church others. I will do my best to love them more built by man and dedicated to God is His than they love me. sanctuary where He can meet with His 3. How to Die. I live for self. The more people (Ex. 25:8) ; but the human body I think of my rights, my needs, my desires, enables Him to have a daily, personal the less I will think of Christ. The less I touch with each individual (1 Cor. 3:16, think of Him, the more selfish I become. 17). Spiritual things are conceived in the Selfishness cuts off my connection with the mind. "The brain nerves which communi- Source of life. Rom. 8:6. cate with the entire system are the only medium through which Heaven can com- LESSON OUTLINE municate to man and affect his inmost life."—Testimonies, Vol. 2, p. 347. We 1. The Mind think about what we see, hear, taste, smell, Prov. 23:7 and feel. "All should guard the senses, lest Satan gain victory over them; for these 2. The Sense of Sight are the avenues to the soul."—Ibid., Vol. 3, 2 Cor. 3:18 p. 507. KEY THOUGHTS 3. The Sense of Hearing 1. Spiritual Values Are Real. To some Luke 8:17, 18 the word "spiritual" seems so ambiguous, so vague, so completely divorced from 4. The Sense of Taste reality that it is meaningless. The aim of Ps. 136:25 this study is to see how spirituality is re- lated to daily living. A spiritual family is 5. The Sense of Smell an active, working family. It is not a pas- Ps. 45:8 sive group; it is not people in a trance. It is cheerful and happy company, not sad 6. The Sense of Touch and gloomy association. Luke 15:20 45 Making Spiritual Values Relevant LESSON 6 ❑ Sunday October 31 Part 1 "For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he." THE MIND Prov. 23:7 "Even the thoughts are not to be allowed to run riot. They must be restrained, brought into captivity to the obedience of Christ."—The Ministry of Healing, page 491. "The great deceiver hopes so to confuse the minds of men and women that none but his voice will be •heard."—Medical Ministry, page 111. Ignorance of the Scriptures causes confusion, but "the entrance of Thy words giveth light; it giveth understand- ing unto the simple." Ps. 119:130. God has given to man the governing power of decision. "Everything depends on the right action of the will. . . . Many will go down to ruin while hoping and desiring to over- come their evil propensities. . . . They do not choose to serve Him."—The Ministry of Healing, page 176. No one can blame Satan, the relatives, or the neighbors for his own sin. "No man without his own consent can be overcome by Satan. The tempter has no power to control the will or to force the soul to sin."—The Great Controversy, page 510. How does one control his thinking and keep his mind alert? Ps. 19:7. The emotions, good or bad, have a tremendous effect on the mind. "The depressing and even ruinous effect of anger, dis- content, selfishness, or impurity, and, on the other hand, the marvelous life-giving power to be found in cheerfulness, un- selfishness, gratitude, should also be shown."—Education, page 197. Watching TV too much or reading aimlessly causes the mind to become weak and inactive. "Castle-building depraves the mind."—Testimonies, Vol. 2, p. 429. "Many an inmate of the insane asylum, has become such through the habit of novel reading."—The Ministry of Healing, page 446. Parents are to train their children in the use of their mental powers. "It is during the first years of a child's life that his mind is most susceptible to impressions either good or evil. During these years decided progress is made in either a right direction or a wrong one."—Counsels to Teachers, page 132. "The mother must be mind for her child. The first three years is the time in which to bend the tiny twig."—Child Guidance, page 194. THINK IT THROUGH Who is responsible for the thoughts I think? Why do I think the thoughts I do? "You will have to become a faithful mind and prevent vain and corrupt sentinel over your eyes, ears, and all thoughts from staining your soul."— your senses if you would control your "Testimonies," Vol. 2, p. 561. FOR FURTHER STUDY: "Testimonies," Vol. 4, pp. 202, 499; Vol. 3, pp. 133, 134; Vol. 7, p. 168. 46 Making Spiritual Values Relevant LESSON 6 ❑ Monday November I Part 2 "But we all, with open face beholding as in a glass THE SENSE the glory of the Lord, are changed into the same image OF SIGHT from glory to glory even as by the Spirit of the Lord." 2 Cor. 3:18 The Christian home will be attractive, and will create a love for the beautiful. "God loves the beautiful. . . . He desires us to surround our homes with the beauty of natural things." —The Ministry of Healing, page 370. The colors should har- monize; the house must be clean and orderly, with everything in its place when not in use. Pictures, curtains, and decorations add loveliness and beauty; plants and flowers, fragrance and charm. The home should be inviting to each member of the family—a cozy place in which to live and relax, not a museum to be observed only. What admonition should govern all aspects of a Christian home? 1 Cor. 14:40. Since we think about that which we see, the TV programs, photos, and pictures should be selected to create respect for man and reverence for God. Books, magazines, and other read- ing materials will be chosen to bring pleasure, enrich knowl- edge, and inspire each member of the family. The facial expression reveals our emotions. That smile on the face says plainly, "Christ is in the heart." "Smile, parents; smile, teachers. If your heart is sad, let not your face reveal the fact."—Child Guidance, page 148. A neat and tidy appearance is attractive to our loved ones. It is very hard for a wife who looks sad, disheartened, and unkempt to be the queen of the home. When love is in the heart, the whole appearance is attractive. THINK IT THROUGH Does my home look like a Christian home? "While there are weighty responsi- its greatest attraction."—"The Ministry bilities devolving upon the parents to of Healing," page 388. guard carefully the future happiness "While we are to guard against and interests of their children, it is also needless adornment and display, we their duty to make home as attractive are in no case to be careless and in- as possible."—"The Adventist Home," different in regard to outward appear- page 21. ance. All about our persons and our "The home should be to the children homes is to be neat and attractive." the most attractive place in the world, —"The Adventist Home," page 22. and the mother's presence should be FOR FURTHER STUDY: "Testimonies to Ministers," pages 388-390; "Christ's Object Lessons," page 67. 47 Making Spiritual Values Relevant LESSON 6 El Tuesday November 2 Part 3 "For nothing is secret, that shall not be made mani- THE SENSE OF fest; neither anything hid, that shall not be known and HEARING come abroad. Take heed therefore how ye hear." Luke 8:17, 18 What kind of words are to be spoken in the home? "Let only pleasant words be spoken by parents to their children, and respectful words by children to their parents. Attention must be given to these things in the home life."— The Adventist Home, page 437. The tone of voice means everything. The Christian's voice should be cheerful, courageous, and inspiring. "There will be no loud, angry talking in the home. The words will be of a character to soothe and bless the hearer. . . . Take all the ugly features out of the voice."—Ibid., p. 436. How important is it that we place a close watch on our conversations? Matt. 12:37. Words are the photographs of the character. Words become a part of us. The daily conversation in the home gives a clearer picture of one's true character than a premeditated speech. "Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speak- eth." Matt. 12:34. There are other sounds in the home which must be guarded. While the TV, radio, and record player make it possible to bring some of the best music into the home, these media are also capable of bringing the worst. "Music, when not abused, is a great blessing; but when put to a wrong use, it is a terrible curse."—Testimonies, Vol. 1, p. 497. Parents, and not inexperienced youth, are the ones to select the music of the home. Children must be taught how to choose, and parents should see that their children hear good music that is appropriate to their ages. THINK IT THROUGH Does my home sound like a Christian home? "The value of song as a means of and joy."—"Education," page 168. education should never be lost sight of. "Evening and morning join with your Let there be singing in the home, of children in God's worship, reading His songs that are sweet and pure, and Word and singing His praise."—"Evan- there will be fewer words of censure gelism," page 499. and more of cheerfulness and hope FOR FURTHER STUDY: "The Adventist Home," pages 406-409; "Education," page 21; "Patriarchs and Prophets," page 51. 48 Making Spiritual Values Relevant LESSON 6 ❑ Wednesday November 3 Part 4 "Who giveth food to all flesh: for His mercy endureth THE SENSE OF TASTE forever." Ps. 136:25 The dining table offers delightful ways of learning about the goodness of God. All our needs will be supplied (Phil. 4:19) ; our bread and water will be sure (Isa. 33:16) ; He is the giver of all good and perfect gifts (James 1:17). We bow our heads and thank Him for all His bounties. God put flavor in food and •taste buds in our mouths that we might enjoy food. He is honored when good, wholesome food is served in an appetizing manner to a happy, thankful family. In what frame of mind should the meals be eaten? Prov. 17:22. "Let mealtime be a cheerful, happy time. As we enjoy the gifts of God, let us respond by grateful praise to the Giver." —The Ministry of Healing, page 385. "Regularity in eating should be carefully observed. Nothing should be eaten between meals, no confectionery, nuts, fruits, or food of any kind. Irregularities in eating destroy the health- ful tone of the digestive organs, to the detriment of health and cheerfulness."—Ibid., p. 384. "Parents should train the appetites of their children, and should not permit the use of unwholesome foods. But in the effort to regulate the diet, we should •be careful not to err in requiring children to eat that which is distasteful, or to eat more than is needed. Children have rights, they have prefer- ences, and when these preferences are reasonable they should be respected."—/bid. "It is a religious duty for those who cook to learn how to prepare healthful food in different ways, so that it may be eaten with enjoyment."—Testimonies, Vol. 1, p. 682. What indicates that man's original diet was balanced for his enjoyment? Gen. 6:21. THINK IT THROUGH What importance is given to the culinary arts and dietetic requirements in my home? "Mothers should teach their children making organs. It is highly essential how to cook. What branch of the edu- that the art of cookery be considered cation of a young lady can be so im- one of the most important branches of portant as this? The eating has to do education. . . . Knowledge of how to with the life. Scanty, impoverished, ill- prepare food healthfully, especially cooked food is constantly depraving bread, is no mean science."—"Testi- the blood by weakening the blood- monies," Vol. 1, p. 682. FOR FURTHER STUDY: "Testimonies," Vol. 2, pp. 69, 383, 487, 488; Vol. 1, pp. 486, 681. 49 7—A4Qt71 Making Spiritual Values Relevant LESSON 6. ❑ Thursday November 4 Part 5 "All thy garments smell of myrrh, and aloes, and THE SENSE OF SMELL cassia, out of the ivory palaces, whereby they have Ps. 45:8 made thee glad." There is a clean fresh smell around the 'Christian home that invites the angels. God perfumed the air and gave nostrils to man to add to his joy. Man's first home was amid majestic trees, graceful shrubs, and delicate flowers. Homes surrounded with flowers and fragrant blossoms create a desire to live. "Cleanliness, neatness, and order are indispensable to the proper management of the household. . . . "Believers should be taught that even though they may be poor, they need not be unclean or untidy in their persons or in their homes. . . . They are to be taught that those who are to represent the high and holy God must keep their souls pure and clean, and that this purity must extend to their dress and to everything in the home."—The Adventist Home, pages 21, 22. How can one avoid air pollution? With so much tobacco smoke indoors and fumes from auto- mobiles and factories outdoors, the air around our large cities is becoming more and more polluted. "Whenever possible, it is the duty of parents to make homes in the country for their children."—Country Living, page 12. "Fathers and mothers who possess a piece of land and a comfortable home are kings and queens."—Fundamentals of Christian. Education, page 327. "The physical surroundings in the cities are often a peril to health. The constant liability to contact with disease, the prev- alence of foul air, impure water, impure food, the crowded, dark, unhealthful dwellings, are some of the many evils to be met."—The Ministry of Healing, page 365. Why did the tabernacle have an altar of sweet in- cense? 'Ex. 30:1, 7, 8; 37:29. THINK IT THROUGH Does my home have the fragrance of a Christian home? "The home of our first parents was The blue heavens were its dome; the to be a pattern for other homes as their earth, with its delicate flowers and car- children should go forth to occupy the pet of living green, was its floor; and earth. That home, beautified by the the leafy branches of the goodly trees hand of God Himself, was not a gor- were its canopy."—"Patriarchs and geous palace. . . . God placed Adam Prophets," page 49. in a garden. This was his dwelling. FOR FURTHER STUDY: "The Ministry of Healing," pages 279, 280; "Testimonies," Vol. 6, p. 170. 50 Making Spiritual Values Relevant LESSON 6 ❑ Friday November 5 Part 6 "When he was yet a great way off, his father saw THE SENSE OF him, and had compassion, and ran, and fell on his neck, TOUCH and kissed him." Luke 15:20 The sweetest way to expressing love is through the sense of touch. Touching the hand, lips, embracing the companion, draws husband and wife closer to each other and closer to God. The sense of touch should not be divorced from love, nor should it be used wholly independently of the other four senses. When and why should parents touch their children? The baby needs to be rocked, cuddled, and held in the arms. This is one reason why breast-fed babies do better as a rule than those who are bottle-fed. The toddler needs a lap to hold him when he is tired or lonesome. The nervous, restless child is often soothed into slumber by the gentle touch of mother's hand on his spine. Teen-agers need to feel father's strong arm about them, mother's loving kiss to assure them their parents still love and appreciate them. What kind of "touch" therapy do children need at times? Prov. 19:18. "A great wrong is done our children when we permit their faults to go uncorrected."—Child Guidance, page 236. This form of touching is unique. When administered in love it corrects a fault, strengthens the child's willpower and draws the child closer to his parent. When given in anger it creates resentment, makes the child rebellious, and builds a wall be- tween parent and child. All punishment is for the future, not the past. We are seek- ing to help the child develop self-control. THINK IT THROUGH How can I cultivate love in my home? "There are many who regard the sion. Let not the heart of one connected expression of love as a weakness, and with you starve for the want of kind- they maintain a reserve that repels ness and sympathy. . . . Continue the others. This spirit checks the current of early attentions. In every way encour- sympathy. As the social and generous age each other in fighting the battles impulses are repressed, they wither, of life. Study to advance the happiness and the heart becomes desolate and of each other. 'Let there be mutual love, cold. We should beware of this error. mutual forbearance.—"The Ministry of Love cannot long exist without expres- Healing," page 360. FOR FURTHER STUDY: "Testimonies," Vol. 4, p. 224; Vol. 5, pp. 123, 124; Vol. 7, pp. 49, 50. 51 Making Spiritual Values Relevant LESSON 6 Part 7 G SUMMARY QUESTIONS G TO TEST YOUR STUDY POWER 1. "The thoughts . . . must be brought into to the of Christ." 2. True or False: The Christian home will be attractive A Christian's face is always solemn Neatness has little to do with one's character 3. By what is each one to be justified or condemned? 4. Select: a. Mealtime is the time to eat, not talk b. Mealtime is the time to be cheerful c. Children should be forced to eat what is good for them d. Children should be allowed within reason to select what they de- sire 5. How can one avoid air pollution? 6. Why should we beware of the error of regarding the expression of love as a weakness? (The answers are at the bottom of the page.) •umssaidxa tnoqqat 1.sixa 2uoj 4.01111e3 GAO/ (9) :21.1TAH 6.1411tt03 (9) p 'q (j') (g) :asp& 'astea 'emu, (g) !aauawaqo 'At!tqttieo 'peumitsaa (t) :s.tamsulf 52 LESSON 7 Nimember 13 ti). 4• THE HOME-PRIMARY CENTER OF EDUCATION 7 "And the very God of peace sanctify you wholly; and I pray God your whole spirit and soul and body be preserved blameless unto the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ." 1 Thess. 5:23. No discussion of education could be or the instructor in the school, serves as fruitful if we failed to think first of its a guide in multitudes of learning experi- primary objective. The knowledge of God ences. The learning has to be a personal and Christ is the final reason for educa- experience. Parents who take their teach- tion. "Higher than the highest human ing responsibilities seriously will remember thought can reach is God's ideal for His that teaching is both voluntary and in- children. Godliness—godlikeness—is the voluntary. The child learns from example goal to be reached."—Education, page 18. as well as precept. There need be no limit to our ambition in the matter of education, so long as it is tempered by this supreme objective. LESSON OUTLINE The home and the school have no more important function than inspiring the 1. Home, the Foundation for youth to develop every talent and ability Education to its highest level, that they may be used Luke 1:80 in the service of God. Great care must be taken in talking about self-abnegation, lest 2. The First School the impression be given that we should Deut. 6:6, 7 make no effort to be people of value to the world. There is a definite place for 3. Educating the Whole Person recognizing the true position of self, but 1 Thess. 5:23 never should it obscure the fact that we were created in the image of God, and 4. Importance of a Trade that we have a duty to develop God-given faculties. 2 Kings 6:1, 2 It is important also to recognize what teaching really is. We would distort the 5. Make Scripture Basic true picture of the teacher should we por- Prov. 2:1-5 tray him as one who ceaselessly pours into unwilling minds vast numbers of facts. 6. God's Second Book The teacher, be it the mother in the home Isa. 40:28-31 53 The Home—Primary Center of Education LESSON 7 ❑ Sunday November 7 Part 1 "And the child grew, and waxed strong in spirit, and HOME, THE was in the deserts till the day of his showing unto Israel." FOUNDATION FOR EDUCATION The parents of John lived in the country, where, in His Luke 1:80 wisdom, the Lord planned that John would receive his educa- tion. The home was his school, and the vastness of the desert his opportunity to become acquainted with God. Not all parents today are required to live in the desert, but every parent should recognize a distinct obligation to make the home the first school of the child. In effect, the home is the matrix where are molded the values that will be held later, and where is developed the personality which will mark the child in his mature years. What advice did Paul give to parents with respect to their children? Eph. 6:4. The home should be the base for educating children. "It is in the home that the education of the child is to begin. Here is his first school. Here, with his parents as in- structors, he is to learn the lessons that are to guide him throughout life—lessons of respect, obedience, reverence, self- control. The educational influences of the home are a decided power for good or for evil. . . . If the child is not instructed aright here, Satan will educate him through agencies of his choosing."—Counsels to Teachers, page 107. THINK IT THROUGH What kind of setting have I provided for the charac- ters my children are forming? "Jesus came to this earth to accom- "John was the son of their old age, plish the greatest work ever accom- he was a child of miracle, and the par- plished among men. He came as God's ents might have reasoned that he had ambassador, to show us how to live a special work to do for the Lord and so as to secure life's best results. What the Lord would take care of him. But were the conditions chosen by the in- the parents did not thus reason; they finite Father for His Son? A secluded moved to a retired place in the country, home in the Galilean hills; a household where their son would not be exposed sustained by honest, self-respecting to the temptations of city life, or in- labor; a life of simplicity; daily conflict duced to depart from the counsel and with difficulty and hardship; self-sacri- instruction which they as parents would fice, economy, and patient, gladsome give him. They acted their part in de- service; the hour of study at His moth- veloping a character in the child that er's side, with the open scroll of Scrip- would in every way meet the purpose ture . . . —these were the conditions for which God had designed his life.... and opportunities of the early life of They sacredly fulfilled their obligation." Jesus."—"The Ministry of Healing," —"Child Guidance," page 23. pages 365,366. FOR FURTHER STUDY: "The Adventist Home ," pages 177-186. 54 The Home—Primary Center of Education LESSON 7 El Monday November 8 Part 2 "And these words, which I command thee this day, THE FIRST shall be in thine heart: and thou shalt teach them dili- SCHOOL gently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou Deut. 6:6, 7 risest up." Whether by design of the parents or not, the home is by its very nature the child's first school. The attitude of the parents toward each other and toward the children, and indeed in relation to all men, cannot be hidden from the child. The parents also have the advantage, as teachers, of being with the children in all of the basic activities of life, and have a won- derful opportunity to tie lessons designed for spiritual growth into the everyday activities. What are some of the lessons the child should learn, beyond the stories of the Bible? "Teach the children and youth to respect themselves, to be true to God, true to principle; teach them to respect and obey the law of God."—The Adventist Home, page 16. Review the lives of some of the great men of the Bible, thinking of the time spent with their mothers as a part of their preparation for their life work. Moses (Ex. 2:9, 10). Samuel (1 Sam. 1:24-28). Notice how Zacharias and Elisabeth met their responsibilities (Luke 1:5-15, 57-63). "An angel from heaven came to instruct Zacharias and Elisabeth as to how they should train and educate their child, so as to work in harmony with God in preparing a messenger to announce the coming of Christ. As parents they were to faithfully cooperate with God in forming such a character in John as would fit him to perform the part God had as- signed him as a competent worker. . . . "They acted their part in developing a character in the child that would in every way meet the purpose for which God had designed his life."—Child Guidance, pages 22, 23. THINK IT THROUGH How can I learn to associate spiritual lessons with the daily experiences of life? "Let not home education be regarded Fall, Christ stands as the representative as a secondary matter. It occupies the of the Father, the connecting link be- first place in all true education. Fathers tween God and man; He is the great and mothers have entrusted to them Teacher of mankind. And He ordained the molding of their children's minds." that men and women should be His "Child Guidance," page 18. representatives. The family was the "In the divine plan of education as school, and the parents were the teach- adapted to man's condition after the ers."—"Education," page 33. FOR 'FURTHER STUDY: "Child Guidance," pages 17-25. 55 The Home—Primary Center of Education LESSON 7 ❑ Tuesday November 9 Part 3 "And the very God of peace sanctify you wholly; and EDUCATING THE I pray God your whole spirit and soul and body be pre- WHOLE PERSON served blameless unto the coming of our Lord Jesus 1 Thess. 5:23 Christ." The best way to find the complete sanctification for which Paul prayed is through the learning process that must begin early in life. "Let those composing the family circle pray that God will sanctify their tongues, their ears, their eyes, and every member of their body. ... "How many dishonor Christ and misrepresent His char- acter in the home circle! How many do not manifest patience, forbearance, forgiveness, and true love !"—The Adventist Home, pages 177, 178. How is the development of the young Jesus de- scribed? Luke 2:52. "Children and youth should begin early to seek •God; for early habits and impressions will frequently exert a powerful influence upon the life and character. . . . Be careful how you build, and what kind of material you put into the building. The characters you are now forming will be lasting as eternity. "Let Jesus take possession of your mind, your heart, and your affections; and work as Christ worked, doing conscien- tiously the home duties, little acts of self-denial and deeds of kindness, employing the moments diligently, keeping a careful watch against little sins and a grateful heart for little blessings, and you will have at last such a testimony for yourself as was given of . . . Christ: 'And Jesus increased in wisdom and stature, and in favor with God and man."—Ibid., p. 297. THINK IT THROUGH How may I be sure that I am following God's plan in directing the growth and development of my children? "Though He increased in knowldege, household. Though His wisdom had as- and the grace of God was upon Him, tonished the doctors, yet He meekly yet He did not become lifted up in subjected Himself to His human guard- pride, or feel that He was above doing ians, bore His part of the family bur- the most humble toil. He took His share dens, and worked with His own hands of the burden, together with His father, as any toiler would work."—Ellen G. mother, and brethren. He toiled to sus- White Comments, "SDA Bible Com- tain the family, and shared in the work mentary," Vol. 5, p. 1117. that would meet the expenses of the FOR FURTHER STUDY: "The Sanctified Life," pages 7-14. 56 The Home—Primary Center of Education LESSON 7 ❑ Wednesday November 10 Part 4 "And the sons of the prophets said unto Elisha, Be- IMPORTANCE hold now, the place where we dwell with thee is too OF A TRADE strait for us. Let us go, we pray thee, unto Jordan, and take thence every man a beam, and let us make us a place there, where we may dwell. And he answered, 2'Kings 6:1, 2 Go ye." In the education of the Israelites, much attention was given to training each child in some practical trade. No matter what role he might follow in later life, he was always capable of supporting himself by his hands. What is said about the necessity of teaching the youth the dignity of labor? "It [labor] is still a source of happiness and development. . . . The youth should be led to see the true dignity of la- bor. . . . All things in nature do •their allotted work. Action pervades the whole creation, and in order to fulfill our mis- sion we, too, must be active."—Education, page 214. Men of •the Bible who worked with their hands: David—a shepherd boy Paul—a tentmaker Moses—a sheepherder Gideon—a farmer Noah—a shipwright Peter—a fisherman Jesus—a carpenter Abel—a shepherd Jacob—a stockman Elisha—a farmer Women of the Bible who worked at menial tasks: Martha—a cook and housekeeper Miriam—a baby-sitter Dorcas—a seamstress Rebecca—a water carrier Ruth—a gleaner Rachel—a sheepherder Can you think of others? How do you think manual labor prepared these people for their later work? What specific result mentioned comes to those who till the fields? Isa. 28:23-26. THINK IT THROUGH How might I make my example and conversation such as to glorify the meaning of work to my children? "The minister, the missionary, the accidents and emergencies, to treat teacher, will find their influences with disease, to build a house, or a church the people greatly increased when it if need be—often these make all the is manifest that they possess the knowl- difference between success and failure edge and skill required for the prac- in his lifework."—"Education," page tical duties of everyday life. . . . The 221. ability to prepare food, to deal with FOR FURTHER STUDY: "Education," pages 214, 222. 57 The Home—Primary Center of Education LESSON 7 ❑ Thursday November 11 Part 5 "My son, if thou wilt receive my words, and hide MAKES SCRIPTURE my commandments with thee; so that thou incline thine BASIC ear unto wisdom, and apply thine heart to understand- ing; . . . then shalt thou understand the fear of the Prov. 2:1-5 Lord, and find the knowledge of God." This lesson points to a knowledge of God as the end and purpose of education. This is the true wisdom which should motivate all our educational effort. While we cannot forget the necessity of learning in many fields in order to take our place in this complex world, we must never lose sight of the basic nature of Scripture as the foundation for other studies. "The knowledge of God and of Jesus Christ expressed in character is an exaltation above everything else that is esteemed on earth or in heaven. It is the very highest education. It is the key that opens the portals of the heavenly city. This knowl- edge it is God's purpose that all who put on Christ shall pos- sess."—The Ministry of Healing, page 457. What is another reason for making a study of Scrip- ture basic in the experience of the child, and a genuine practice in the home? Ps. 119:11. "There were some who sought His society, feeling at peace in His presence; but many avoided Him, because they were rebuked by His stainless life. Young companions urged Him to do as they did. He was bright and cheerful; they enjoyed His presence, and welcomed His ready suggestions; but they were impatient at His scruples, and pronounced Him narrow and straitlaced. Jesus answered, It is written, 'Wherewithal shall a young man cleanse his way? by taking heed thereto according to Thy word.'"—The Desire of Ages, page 89. "There was in Him nothing that responded to Satan's sophistry. He did not consent to sin. Not even by a thought did He yield to temptation. . . . By what means did He over- come in the conflict with Satan? By the Word of God."— Ibid., p. 123. THINK IT THROUGH In what ways might I reveal the purpose of God as shown in the Bible, in my everyday living before my children? "As a preparation for teaching His children in the Bible, we ourselves must precepts, God commands that they be be interested in it. To awaken in them hidden in the hearts of the parents. a love for its study, we must love it. 'These words, which I command thee Our instruction to them will have only this day, shall be in thine heart,' He the weight of influence given it by our says; 'and thou shalt teach them dili- own example and spirit."—"Educa- gently.' . . . In order to interest our tion," page 187. FOR FURTHER STUDY: "Education," pages 33-44. 58 The Home—Primary Center of Education LESSON 7 ❑ Friday November 12 Part 6 "Host thou not known? hast thou not heard, that the GOD'S SECOND everlasting God, the Lord, the Creator of the ends of BOOK the earth, fainteth not, neither is weary? there is no searching of His understanding. He giveth power to the faint; and to them that have no might He increaseth strength. Even the youths shall faint and be weary, and the young men shall utterly fall: but they that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be Isa. 40:28-31 weary; and they shall walk, and not faint." Of all the lessons that can be learned from a study of nature, none can be a greater benefit than the realization of the power and the love of God. The realization of God as the Creator makes our own re-creation seem so simple. 1). What are some lessons to be learned from Ps. 19:1-3? "Even now all created things declare the glory of His ex- cellence. There is nothing, save the selfish heart of man, that lives unto itself. No bird that cleaves the air, no animal that moves upon the ground, but ministers to some other life. There is no leaf of the forest, or lowly blade of grass, but has its ministry. Every tree and shrub and leaf pours forth that element of life without which neither man nor animal could live ; and man and animal, in turn, minister to the life of tree and shrub and leaf. The flowers breathe fragrance and unfold their beauty in blessing to the world. The sun sheds its light to gladden a thousand worlds. The ocean, itself the source of all our springs and fountains; receives the streams from every land, but takes to give. The mists ascending from its bosom fall in showers to water the earth, that it may bring forth and bud."—The Desire of Ages, pages 20, 21. THINK IT THROUGH How can I instill both a love of nature and an appre- ciation of God through its study in my children? "To the little child, not yet capable great laws that guide alike the star of learning from the printed page or and the atom control human life. The of being introduced to the routine of laws that govern the heart's action, the schoolroom, nature presents an un- regulating the flow of the current of failing source of instruction and de- life to the body, are the laws of the light. The heart not yet hardened by mighty Intelligence that has the juris- contact with evil is quick to recognize diction of the soul. From Him all life the Presence that pervades all created proceeds. Only in harmony with Him things."—"Education," page 100. can be found its true sphere of action." "The same power that upholds na- —"Ibid.," p. 99. ture, is working also in man. The same FOR FURTHER STUDY: "Education," pages 99-112. 59 09 Answers: (1) home; (2) everyday; (3) body, soul, and spirit; (4) practical; (5) hide the Word in the heart; (6) nature. (•aled Jo lummq ati4 4e are SlOAASUE atia,) .3amod scH 2uquana3 jo stream E SI JO Aooq ay ‘31ooq puopas s‘pop .9 (up ol uouuldtua3 211!WODIDA0 pp tre se aidoad 2unoz( aptrepIn2 sang 3suulesd alp jo uousanns 3eqm .s 'apt jo saunp alpi u.reap pploqs pulp Anna e.uopeDupouts zno jo ssaualaidiuoa aqi aquosap Ined saop ntioH •E .saDuauadxa ypin. 3! 2upeposse Aq umputp Aq pauluai Ausea Isom sc uopanzisu! s‘poo .z alga st pimp ay jo uoueonpa ay jo 3treuntualap otp pin .1D3DEIELID JO uoueuuoj ay ioj ppm peat aqy •i 213MOd Aanis anoA 1531 01 o SNOLLS3f10 Asvwwns 4"'d L NOSS31 uonvanpg Jo Jaluao fimuqaci—autoH LESSON 8 November 20 HEALTH VALUES IN THE HOME 8 "Beloved, I wish above all things that thou mayest prosper and be in health, even as thy soul prospereth." 3 John 2. The concern of our Lord is not solely for ments for rules which will maintain health. the souls of men. Through the apostle John But if we present these only as arbitrary He expressed a like concern for the phys- commands, we may not have an enthu- ical health, "even as thy soul prospereth." siastic following. While recognizing God's interest in our As we study the subject of health this maintaining good health, we must also week, let us do so with an eye on the mir- realize the important part the mind and ror, determining how well we are setting feelings of men have in affecting the rest the example of healthful living that we of the body. hope our children will follow. Surely there is no place as important as the Christian home for training in health LESSON OUTLINE principles. It is in the home that the child is trained for future usefulness. The Chris- 1. Knowledge Is Necessary tian, therefore, in all of his home life Gen. 18:19 should exemplify those health principles which demonstrate his belief that the body 2. Temperate in All Things is the temple of the Holy Spirit. 1 Cor. 9:24, 25 We must ever keep before children by precept and example the need to care for 3. The Case for Abstinence the body. We must teach them sound prin- Rom. 12:1, 2 ciples which will go far toward protecting them against the inroads of disease. 4. Importance of Diet How careful we should be to make it 1 Cor. 3:17 plain that certain restrictions which the Christian observes are not merely religious 5. Rest and Recreation observances. Of course we have an obliga- Mark 6:31 tion to God to preserve health. Children ask for the reasons on which we base our 6. Sacrificial Living instructions, and they can see the argu- Isa. 6:6-8 61 Health Values in the Home LESSON 8 ❑ Sunday November 14 Part 1 "I know him, that he will command his children and KNOWLEDGE IS his household after him." NECESSARY Gen. 18:19 How fortunate is the child who has parents like Abraham, of whom God could say, "I know him, that he will command his children and his household." But in being like Abraham, it is necessary to have the knowledge that makes the command- ing effective to the salvation of the child. This knowledge Abraham had. "Some mothers are not uniform in the treatment of their children. At times they indulge them to their injury, and again they refuse some innocent gratification that would make the childish heart very happy. In this they do not imitate Christ." —The Ministry of Healing, page 390. Among the other things which a child should learn as a part of Christian living is the study of physiology. "Parents should early seek to interest their children in the study of physiology and should teach them its simpler prin- ciples. Teach them how best to preserve the physical, mental, and spiritual powers, and how to use their gifts so that their lives may bring blessing to one another and honor to God. This knowledge is invaluable to the young. An education in the things that concern life and health is more important to them than a knowledge of many of the sciences taught in the schools."—Ibid., pp. 385, 386. The parent who does not have this knowledge will find it difficult to try to lead his children into habits of good living. He will lack a basis for making the requirements of healthful living reasonable. What effect did a knowledge of the body have on the psalmist? Ps. 139:14. What is the strongest incentive to adopting a good health regimen? 1 Cor. 3:17. THINK IT THROUGH What does a recognition of my body as the temple of the living God do for me? "The knowledge that man is to be wrought in the human frame, and He a temple for God, a habitation for the bids us make it our study, understand revealing of His glory, should be the its needs, and act our part in preserv- highest incentive to the care and devel- ing it from harm and defilement."— opment of our physical powers. Fear- "The Ministry of Healing," page 271. fully and wonderfully has the Creator FOR FURTHER STUDY: "Child Guidance," pages 360-366. 62 Health Values in the Home LESSON 8 ❑ Monday November 15 Part 2 "Know ye not that they which run in a race run all, TEMPERATE IN but one receiveth the prize? So run, that ye may obtain. ALL THINGS And every man that striveth for the mastery is temperate in all things. Now they do it to obtain a corruptible 1 Cor. 9:24, 25 crown; but we an incorruptible." Paul's discussion of temperance is well illustrated by point- ing to the runners in the Olympic games. No doubt the games were as avidly followed by some in his day as they are today. These runners were looked upon with admiration then, as athletes are today. How fitting that young people, particularly, should think of the rewards of healthful living! Beyond immediate benefits there are eternal goals for us as compared to the fading laurel wreath given to the victor in the ancient games. See SDA Bible Commentary, Vol. 6, p. 1089, and compare 2 Tim. 4:8. It is important to know the relationship that exists between temperance, temptation, and sin. "The diet has much to do with the disposition to enter into temptation and commit sin." —Counsels on Diet and Foods, page 52. While we often think of temperance in a special context, that of the use of alcohol, tobacco, and narcotics, we might do well to use a different word for these things—abstinence. We really do not teach the temperate use of these things; to understand this point better we shall give further considera- tion to that phase of the question in part 3 of this lesson. What is Paul's attitude toward diet and toward our judgment of the diet of others? Romans 14. THINK IT THROUGH Is my practice of temperance principles consistent, even in my working and playing? "Many groan under a burden of in- physical, mental, and moral power." firmities because of wrong habits of —"The Sanctified Life," pages 25, 26. eating and drinking, which do violence "The controlling power of appetite to the laws of life and health. They are will prove the ruin of thousands, when, enfeebling their digestive organs by if they had conquered on this point, indulging perverted appetite. The they would have moral power to gain power of the human constitution to victory over every other temptation of resist the abuses put upon it is wonder- Satan. But slaves to appetite will fail ful, but persistent wrong habits in in perfecting Christian character. The excessive eating and drinking will en- continual transgression of man for six feeble every function of the body. In thousand years has brought sick. ess, the gratification of perverted appetite pain, and death, as its fruits."—"Tem- and passion even professed Christians perance," page 16. cripple nature in her work and lessen FOR FURTHER STUDY: "Child Guidance," pages 394-400. 63 Health Values in. the Home LESSON 8 ❑ Tuesday November 16 Part 3 "I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of THE CASE FOR God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, ABSTINENCE acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service. And be not conformed to this world: but be ye trans- formed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of Rom. 12:1, 2 God." In making a distinction between temperance and absti- nence, we need this appeal from Paul. While we are aware that many people define temperance as abstinence from that which is harmful and restraint in the use of that which is good, in this part of the lesson we are studying actual abstinence, with no thought of temperance at all. The chief appeal that gives strength in this respect is this statement in Romans. What experience of Daniel illustrates the strength of character needed by the Christian in areas requiring total abstinence? Dan. 1:8-21. Alcoholic drinks are a prime example of the misuse of God's benefits. "Our Creator has bestowed His bounties upon man with a liberal hand. Were all these gifts of Providence wisely and temperately employed, poverty, sickness, and distress would be well-nigh banished from the earth. But alas, we see on every hand the blessings of God changed to a curse by the wicked- ness of men. "There is no class guilty of greater perversion and abuse of His precious gifts than are those who employ the products of the soil in the manufacture of intoxicating liquors. The nutri- tive grains, the healthful, delicious fruits, are converted into beverages that pervert the senses and madden the brain. As a result of the use of these poisons, thousands of families are deprived of the comforts and even the necessaries of life, acts of violence and crime are multiplied, and disease and death hurry myriads of victims to a drunkard's grave."—Temperance, page 31. THINK IT THROUGH Does desire for social acceptance sometimes blunt my wholehearted sacrifice of my body to God? "The unnatural exhilaration which when public opinion and fashion sus- intemperance gives to the mind and tain them. Festivities and amusements, spirits, lowers the sensibilities to moral dances, and free use of wine, becloud improvement, making it impossible for the senses, and remove the fear of holy impulses to affect the heart, and God."—"Temperance," page 50. hold government over the passions, F.OR FURTHER STUDY: "Child Guidance," pages 401-410. 64 Health Values in the Home LESSON 8 ❑ Wednesday November 17 Part 4 "If any man defile the temple of God, him shall God IMPORTANCE destroy; for the temple of God is holy, which temple OF DIET ye are." 1 Cor. 3:17 This seems to be a foundation text for the health-reform message which is so vital a part of the Advent message. It provides a framework for a discussion of healthful living that makes it a spiritual matter. God's claim on our bodies as His temple makes the use of anything which is harmful a means of defiling the temple. This gives us a reason, as children of God, for discarding the harm- ful. What rule did Paul give for deciding what is good and acceptable? 1 Cor. 10:31. What connection is made between eating and glorify- ing God? "To eat on the Sabbath the same amount of food eaten on a working day is entirely out of place. The Sabbath is the day set apart for the worship of God, and on it we are to be spe- cially careful in regard to our diet. A clogged stomach means a clogged brain. Too often so large an amount of food is eaten on the Sabbath that the mind is rendered dull and stupid, incapable of appreciating spiritual things."—Counsels on Health, page 577. THINK IT THROUGH Is it pride, or is it appetite, that forms the chief reason for the failure of so many to come up to God's purpose for us in healthful living? "I am instructed to say that if meat poisonous food."—"Medical Ministry," eating ever were safe, it is not safe page 280. now. Diseased animals are taken to "It was when the children of Israel the large cities, and to the villages, and sat down to eat and drink, and rose sold for food. Many of these poor crea- up to play, that they threw off the fear tures would have died of disease in of God, which they had felt as they a very short time, if they had not been listened to the giving of the law; and, slaughtered; yet the carcasses of these making a golden calf to represent God, diseased animals are prepared for the they worshiped it."—"The Acts of the market, and people eat freely of this Apostles," page 316. FOR FURTHER STUDY: "Child Guidance," pages 371-377. 65 Health Values in the Home LESSON 8 ❑ Thursday November /8 Part 5 "And He said unto them, Come ye yourselves apart REST AND into a desert place, and rest awhile: for there were RECREATION many coming and going, and they had no leisure so much Mark 6:31 as to eat." There are some who misread God's purpose for man when they conclude that the urgency of the work of the gospel, or any other cause, is so great that there is no time for needed rest and recreation. Christ's example should be noted here. This was not simply compassion on His part for the weary disciples. He knew only too well that to burn oneself out in any work merely shortens the useful period of a person's life. D How did Christ show His thoughtfulness for the dis- ciples even on that fateful night in the garden? Matt. 26:45. What problem is presented by some athletic activi- ties? "Some of the most popular amusements, such as football and boxing, have become schools of brutality. They are devel- oping the same characteristics as did the games of ancient Rome. The love of domination, the pride in mere brute force, the reckless disregard of life, are exerting upon the youth a power to demoralize that is appalling."—The Adventist Home, page 500. THINK IT THROUGH In what ways can I be sure that my recreation and that of my family tend to glorify God? "How many of the youthful disci- The sincere desire to do others good so ples . . . have made God their trust predominates that self is forgotten. To and portion, and have earnestly sought have firm religious principles is an in- to know and to do His will? There are estimable treasure. It is the purest, many who are servants of Christ in highest, and most elevated influence name, but who are not so in deed. mortals can possess. Such have an an- Where religious principle governs, the chor. Every act is well considered, lest danger of committing great errors is its effect be injurious to another and small; for selfishness, which always lead away from Christ."—"Counsels on blinds and deceives, is subordinate. Health," page 288. FOR FURTHER STUDY: "The Adventist Home," pages 506-520. 66 Health Values in the Home LESSON 8 ❑ Friday November 19 Part 6 "Then flew one of the seraphims unto me, having a SACRIFICIAL live coal in his hand, which he had taken with the LIVING tongs from off the altar: and he laid- it upon my mouth, and said, Lo, this hath touched thy lips; and thine iniquity is taken away, and thy sin purged. Also I heard the voice of the Lord, saying, Whom shall I send, and who Isa. 6:6-8 will go for us? Then said I, Here am I; send me." Not all of our going must be in the field of direct missionary endeavor. The life lived sacrificially in the light of God's in- struction is a powerful instrument to attract others to a search for direction in their own lives. The experience of Isaac in being offered as a sacrifice and then miraculously being delivered must have been a great and positive influence on his life. Gen. 22:1-13. What should be our deterfoination regarding living for God, in view of the instruction given us—this means by which we are delivered from the altar of appetite or passion? Does the idea of sacrificial living and doing good extend even to care of the body? Rom. 12:1, 2. THINK IT THROUGH What are some practices I should adopt in my life that might be considered sacrificial living? "Is it necessary that in order to solve damentals of Christian Education," the problem of education one must page 352. commit robbery toward God, and re- "Oh, how can any who have the fuse to give God the willing service of light of truth, the great light given the powers of the spirit, soul, and them of God, defy the wrath and body? God calls upon you to be doers judgments of God by sinning against of His word, in order that you may be Him, and doing the very things God thoroughly educated in the principles has told them in His Word not to do? that will give you a fitness for heaven. How can they be so blinded by Satan . . . The purpose of education should as to dishonor God to His face, and be to take in light in order that you defile their souls by sinning know- may impart light by letting it shine ing ly?"—"Testimon ies to Ministers," forth to others in good works."—"Fun- page 447. FOR FURTHER STUDY: "The Ministry of Healing," pages 395-406. 67 Health Values in the Home LESSON 8 Part 7 0 SUMMARY QUESTIONS 0 TO TEST YOUR STUDY POWER 1. The first step in healthful living is to gain 2. True or False: The question of diet is one which concerns only the in- dividual. One does not need to consider others in this part of his life 3. Paul suggests that rather than being molded by the world, our real need is for 4. In how many things are we to glorify God? Name some. 5. The real test of recreation should be that it 6. The adoption of healthful practices of living may rightly be thought of by many as living. (The answers are at the bottom of the page.) lepuiroes (9) :saipoq Inn mero2mm pue maids Ina tisane.' (9) ile (4) TWA s‘P09 04 20n4ropae uoReturojsuen (c) 0s10 3 (Z) !aSpeimomi (I) : mantsmi 68 LESSON 9 November 27 RECREATION THROUGH PLAY AND HOBBY "Whether therefore ye eat, or drink, or whatsoever ye do, do all to the glory of God." 1 Cor. 10:31. This study is pertinent to the well- of meaning that need study. Sports may rounded growing experience of both youth need to be avoided if they in any way neu- and adult. Recreation in its most whole- tralize the primary objective of Christian some form is as important as spiritual growth. Sports have the implication of exercise, diet, or physical and mental la- competition, which can be detrimental. bor. Balanced living is the key to Christian Sports also, in this day and age, often living and witness. Whatever we do should imply excessive commercial entertainment be done "to the glory of God." But success instead of participation. This has potential in family recreation is not accidental. Study danger to the Christian's stewardship of and planning are needed if we are to reap time and money. happy results. 5. Hobbies: Activities in which all can have diversified enjoyable experiences and KEY WORDS where dexterity is not necessarily a factor 1. Study: 2 Tim. 2:15, "Try hard to are "hobbies." They can be activities for show yourself worthy of God's approval, any day of the week, for Sabbath, for as a laborer who need not be ashamed, future economic serenity, for sharing and driving a straight furrow, in your proc- developing friendship, et cetera. lamation of the truth." NEB. The youthful view of God is often colored by the example of adults. To have an influence LESSON OUTLINE that will "drive a straight furrow" de- mands study by parents of ways to capi- 1. Do Christians Need Recreation? talize on the place of recreation in the Prov. 17:22 Christian growth of youth. Weeds grow without planning or cultivation; beauty, 2. Criteria for Recreation by planning and constant cultivation. 1 Cor. 10:31; Phil. 4:5 2. Recreation: to re-create, to revitalize, to renew, to relax, to reenergize—all are 3. Are Amusements and Sports the purposes of recreation and its genuine a Part of Recreation? end products. Any other by-products re- Prov. 4:14, 15 sulting from recreational pursuits need careful study to determine whether or not 4. Choosing Fun for the Family they neutralize the spiritual. Prov. 3:6 3. Amusement: Diversion is a form of recreation with the built-in danger of possi- 5. Choosing Hobbies ble shallow enjoyment without any relative Prov. 31:27 benefit that true recreation provides. Again 1 Cor. 10:31 needs careful application here. 6. Sabbath Delights 4. Sports: This word has several shades Isa. 58:13; Lev. 23:32 69 Recreation Through Play and Hobby LESSON 9 ❑ Sunday November 21 Part 1 "A merry heart doeth good like a medicine." DO CHRISTIANS NEED RECREATION? Prov. 17:22 What outward testimony should true Christians pre- sent to the world? "Christians should be the most cheerful and happy people that live. They may have the consciousness that God is their Father and their everlasting Friend. "But many professed Christians do not correctly represent the Christian religion. They appear gloomy, as if under a cloud. They often speak of the great sacrifices they have made to become Christians. They appeal to those who have not accepted Christ, representing by their own example and con- versation that they must give up everything which would make life pleasant and joyful. They throw a pall of darkness over the blessed Christian hope. The impression is given that God's requirements are a burden even to the willing soul, and that everything that would give pleasure, or that would de- light the taste, must be sacrificed."—Messages to Young People, page 363. "Recreation is needful to those who are engaged in physical labor and is still more essential for those whose labor is prin- cipally mental. It is not essential to our salvation, nor for the glory of God, to keep the mind laboring constantly and ex- cessively, even upon religious themes."—Testimonies, Vol. 1, p. 514. Might it be possible that the spirituality of my home could be affected by my attitude toward recreation? THINK IT THROUGH Actually, is there any phase or stage of life that is not affected by the way we look upon recreation? "It is the privilege and duty of Chris- and them to more successfully attend tians to seek to refresh their spirits and to the duties devolving upon us as invigorate their bodies by innocent Christians. recreation, with the purpose of using "We cannot be excusable in the sight their physical and mental powers to the of God if we engage in amusements glory of God. Our recreations should which have a tendency to unfit us for not be scenes of senseless mirth, tak- the faithful performance of the ordi- ing the form of the nonsensical. We can nary duties of life, and thus lessen our conduct them in such a manner as will relish for the contemplation of God benefit and elevate those with whom and heavenly things."—"Messages to we associate, and better qualify us Young People," page 364. FOR FURTHER STUDY: "The Adventist Home," page 507. 70 Recreation Through Play and Hobby LESSON 9 ❑ Monday November 22 Part 2 "Whether therefore ye eat, or drink, or whatsoever CRITE3IA FOR ye do, do all to the glory of God." RECREATION "Let your moderation be known unto all men." 1 Cor. 10:31; Phil. 4:5 "There are persons with a diseased imagination to whom religion is a tyrant, ruling them as with a rod of iron. . . . They consider all recreation or amusement a sin. . . . This is one extreme. Others think that the mind must ever be on the stretch to invent new amusements and diversions. . . . They learn to depend on excitement, and are uneasy without it." —Counsels on Health, page 631. What is the true purpose of education? "In this age, life has become artificial, and men have de- generated. While we may not return fully to the simple habits of those early times, we may learn from them lessons that will make our seasons of recreation what the name implies—seasons of true upbuilding for body and mind and soul."—Education, page 211. What does the term "re-create" imply? Is there a need for agreement in the home on the kinds of play and diversion that could be helpful to every member of the family? THINK IT THROUGH In what ways can recreation enter into meals, wor- ship, trips, and work programs of the family as well as the stated times of diversion? Can everyday family living be an adventure in recreation? "Are your recreations such as to and rank themselves with the pleasure impart moral and spiritual vigor? Will lovers of the world. The sins that de- they lead to purrijio-f—th-abblif and stroyed the antediluvians and the cities action? Impurity is today widespread, of the plain exist today—not merely in even among the professed followers heathen lands, not only among popular of Christ. Passion is unrestrained; the professors of Christianity, but with animal propensities are gaining some who profess to be looking for the strength by indulgence, while the moral coming of the Son of man. If God powers are constantly becoming should present these sins before you as weaker. Many are eagerly participat- they appear in His sight, you would be ing in worldly, demoralizing amuse- filled with shame and terror."—"Tes- ments which God's Word forbids. Thus timonies," Vol. 5, p. 218. they sever their connection with God FOR FURTHER STUDY: "The Adventist Home," pages 506, 507. 71 Recreation Through Play and Hobby LESSON 9 ❑ Tuesday November 23 Part 3 "Enter not into the path of the wicked, and go not in ARE AMUSEMENTS the way of evil men. Avoid it, pass not by it, turn from AND SPORTS A it, and pass away." PART OF RECREATION? Prov. 4:14, 15 What is the difference between recreation and amuse- ment? "There is a distinction between recreation and amusement. Recreation, when_ true to its name, re-creation, tends to strengthen and build up. . . . Amusement, on the other hand, is sought for the sake of pleasure and is often carried to ex- cess."—Education, page 207. "In order for children and youth to have health, cheerful- ness, vivacity, and well-developed muscles and brains, they should be much in the open air and have well-regulated em- ployment and amusement."—Testimonies, Vol. 3, p. 137. "Let the parents study to get up something to take the place of more dangerous amusements." —/bid., Vol. 1, p. 514. "There is great need of temperance in amusements, as in every other pursuit."—Counsels to Teachers, page 333. "Sports and games open the door to a flood of temptations." —Ibid., p. 366. "They [excessive athletic games] tend to destroy a relish for life's sober realities and its tranquil enjoyments. Thus the door is opened to dissipation and lawlessness, with their ter- rible results."—Education, page 211. THINK IT THROUGH Is the danger in amusement and sports themselves or • in the problem of imbalance? Is there as much danger in sedentary "sports" of adults, such as gossip or criti- cism, as in excess in team sports of youth? "While we are seeking to refresh our "Any amusement in which you can spirits and invigorate our bodies, we engage asking the blessing of God are required of God to use all our upon it in faith will not be dangerous. powers at all times to the best pur- But any amusement which disqualifies pose. We can, and should, conduct our you for secret prayer, for devotion at recreations in such a manner that we the altar of prayer, or for taking part shall be better fitted for the more suc- in the prayer meeting, is not safe, but cessful discharge of the duties devolv- dangerous."—"Counsels to Teachers," ing upon us, and our influence will be pages 336, 337. more beneficial upon those with whom we associate. . . . FOR FURTHER STUDY: "The Adventist Home," page 511. 72 Recreation Through Play and Hobby LESSON 9 ❑ Wednesday November 24 Part 4 "In all thy ways acknowledge Him, and He shall CHOOSING FUN direct thy paths." FOR THE FAMILY Prey. 3:6 "On such occasions parents and children should feel free from care, labor, and perplexity. Parents should become chil- dren with their children, making everything as pleasant for them as possible. . . . Nothing will be lost, but much gained." —Testimonies, Vol. 1, p. 515. Is Mrs. White's counsel on this subject out of date? Is there a danger of limiting the concept of fun? Shouldn't it include all phases of living? Are the recreational pursuits to be solely what the parents like to do—or should they take into account the ages and interests of the children? In what way can the child's attitude toward work help in his outlook on life? in his choice of a vocation? and in his enjoyment of life? THINK IT THROUGH Some youth have a tendency to feel that the Seventh- day Adventist teaching with respect to fun is too re- stricted. What are avenues of wholesome discussion and activity that are worthy of our time and effort? What is the duty of parents and teachers to the youth who have difficulty understanding the danger of questionable amusements? "Youth cannot be made as sedate "The great God, whose glory shines and grave as old age, the child as from the heavens, and whose divine sober as the sire. While sinful amuse- hand upholds millions of worlds, is our ments are condemned, as they should Father. We have only to love Him, trust be, let parents, teachers, and guardians in Him, as little children in faith and of youth provide in their stead innocent confidence, and He will accept us as pleasures, which will not taint or cor- His sons and daughters, and we shall rupt the morals."—"Counsels to Teach- be heirs to all the inexpressible glory ers," page 335. of the eternal world. All the meek will "There are modes of recreation He guide in judgment, the meek will which are highly beneficial to both He teach His way. If we will walk in mind and body. An enlightened, dis- obedience to His will, learn cheerfully criminating mind will find abundant and diligently the lessons of His prov- means for entertainment and diver- idence, by and by He will say: Child, sion, from sources not only innocent, come home to the heavenly mansions but instructive. Recreation in the open I have prepared for you."—"Testimo- air, the contemplation of the works of nies," Vol. 4, p. 653. God in nature, will be of the highest benefit. FOR FURTHER STUDY: "The Adventist Home," page 508; "Testimonies," Vol. 1, pp. 514, 515. 73 Recreation Through Play and Hobby LESSON 9 ❑ Thursday November 25 Part 5 "She looketh well to the ways of her household, and CHOOSING HOBBIES eateth not the bread of idleness." Prov. 31:27 "Parents cannot commit a greater sin than to allow their children to have nothing to do."—Christ's Object Lessons, page 345. "It is a sin to let them [children] grow up in idleness." —Testimonies, Vol. 2, p. 371. What counsel does the Bible give about idleness? Prov. 6:6-11. Although there is no substitute for the responsibility of work, the developing of hobbies is a most important supple- ment to gainful occupation of time. Is there a better way to nurture a never-ending fellowship adv_enture_with your chil- dren and with each other? What might be some hobbies that would unite the follow- ing categories: a. Indoor b. Outdoor c. Active d. Quiet e. Secular f. Religious THINK IT THROUGH Must Christianity be mostly theoretical or mostly prac- tical if we are to win the youth for Christ? If religion is largely caught instead of taught, am I utilizing the natu- ral youth hobby interest in the mission field which is my family? Does the following quotation have application in the field of hobbies? "In the place of providing diversions this time is used in selfish pleasure, the that merely amuse, arrangements hours thus spent are lost for all eter- should be made for exercises that will nity. be productive of good. . . . "Our young people need to be sur- "God bestows talents upon men, not rounded with wholesome, uplifting in- that these talents may lie unused or be fluences. They are to be kept in the employed in self-gratification, but that love of the truth. The standard set they may be used to bless others. God before them should be high."—"Coun- grants men the gift of time for the sels to Teachers," page 354: purpose of promoting His glory. When FOR FURTHER STUDY: "The Adventist Home," pages 509, 510. 74 Recreation Through Play and Hobby LESSON 9 ❑ Friday November 26 Part 6 "And call the Sabbath a delight, the holy of the SABBATH DELIGHTS Lord, honorable; and shalt honor Him." Isa. 58:13; "From even unto even, shall ye celebrate your Sab- Lev. 23:32 bath." There are all sorts of Sabbath keepers. Some are quite happy and delighted in the day. They are never weary with its hours, and they never wish them to be gone. The Sabbath to them is neither a burden nor an escape from life. But others there are to whom the Sabbath is merely an obligation and Sabbath keeping a job of religion. Still others observe the Sabbath out of habit. "Parents, above everything take care of your children upon the Sabbath."—Child Guidance, page 533. "We are not to teach our children that they must not be happy on the Sabbath."—Ibid., pp. 533, 534. "Do not weary them with long prayers and tedious exhorta- tions, but through nature's object lessons teach them obedience to the law of God."—The Desire of Ages, pages 516, 517. Can Sabbath self-discipline and delight become one and the same for all the members of the family? How? Since the word "celebrate" suggests happy participation, list various ways Sabbath can become a unique celebration in wor- ship activities, hobbies, faith sharing, and the like. THINK IT THROUGH Do we make the Sabbath a delight or a depressant to our children? What is the Sabbath intended to be in the life of the family? "Make it [the Sabbath] the most in- minds something to feed upon by con- teresting day of the week."—"Testi- versing with them upon the works of monies," Vol. 2, p. 584. God, and can inspire them with love "All who love God should do what and reverence by calling their atten- they can to make the Sabbath a de- tion to the beautiful objects in nature. light, holy and honorable. . . . We "The Sabbath should be made so should devote time to interesting our interesting to our families that its children. A change will have a happy weekly return will be hailed with joy. influence upon them. We can walk out . . . Parents, make the Sabbath a de- with them in the open air; we can sit light, that your children may look for- with them in the groves and in the ward to it and have a welcome in their bright sunshine, and give their restless hearts for it."—"Ibid.," pp. 584, 585. FOR FURTHER STUDY: "The Adventist Home ," pages 503, 504. 75 Recreation Through Play and Hobby LESSON 9 Part 7 <> SUMMARY QUESTIONS <> TO TEST YOUR STUDY POWER 1. Do Christians need recreation) 2. True or False: Seasons of recreation are for the upbuilding of body, mind, and soul 3. Any amusement in which you can engage asking the upon it . . . will not be dangerous. 4. What is the duty of parents and teachers with regard to recreation for our youth? 5. List three hobbies that are active • List three hobbies that are quiet • 6. Sabbath is to be the of the week. (The answers are at the bottom of the page.) *Sep 2upsaamin Isom (9) :salciqot/ 4a/nb pue anpze as/otis ma& (9) fun/ at/1 ul lump tflps 2unnof `tuatp ro; uopea.mar atuosatotta pug ;snuff :pop Jo 2u/ssam (9) :only (3) :sac (t) :sramsuv 76 LESSON 10 December 4 •— A t //7% cowl)" gg: ECONOMICS IN THE HOME 10 "For where your treasure is, there will your heart be also." Luke 12:34. True economy is the saving of that makes a woeful want. He who buys what which is of value. Matt. 16:26. What do he does not need, will need what he cannot we treasure more, people or things? Some buy. A fool and his money are soon •parted. foolishly treasure things that will perish Idleness is sin. with this world and that nourish vanity, pride, and covetousness. Others treasure LESSON OUTLINE people and spiritual values that will endure and that can bring comfort and satisfac- 1. Talents Given to Everyone tion. The aim of this lesson is to study Matt. 25:14, 15 how to save that which is of value to the home and family. 2. Time KEY THOUGHTS Luke 19:13 1. Some gains are losses: Adam and Eve 3. Have a Schedule thought they had gained their freedom, but Eccl. 3:1 they lost their dominion. King Saul gained animals and lost a kingdom. Judas gained 4. Earning Money silver and lost a Saviour. Deut. 8:18 2. The price is exorbitant: If we ruin our health to accumulate wealth; if we lose 5. Spending Money our children to save tuition money; if we Matt. 22:21 lose a friend to gain some property. 3. Proverbs worth considering: Poor 6. Practice Economy people have poor ways. A willful waste Maft. 14:20 77 Economics in the Home LESSON 10 ❑ Sunday November 28 Part 1 "For the kingdom of heaven is as a man traveling TALENTS GIVEN into a far country, who called his own servants, and TO EVERYONE delivered unto them his goods. And unto one he gave five talents, to another two, and to another one; to every man according to his several ability; and straightway Matt. 25:14, 15 took his journey." Talents are the tools the Master assigns to each worker. By learning how to use these tools skillfully one increases his efficiency greatly. We could say then that one's talents are doubled by securing a Christian education, for "education is but a preparation of the physical, intellectual, and moral powers for the best performance of all the duties of life."— Testimonies, Vol. 4, p. 498. Each talent we possess is a re- sponsibility God has assigned to us. This education is to begin in the home. "The home is the child's first school, and it is here that the foundation should be laid for a life of service."—The Ministry of Healing, page 400. "Children as well as parents have important duties in the home."—Ibid., p. 394. "It is essential for parents to find useful employment for their children, which will involve the bearing of responsibilities as their age and strength will permit."— Counsels to Teachers, page 146. What time is given to us in which to labor? Ex. 20:9. "Parents cannot commit a greater sin than to allow their children to have nothing to do."—Christ's Object Lessons, page 345. "God appointed work as a blessing, and only the diligent worker finds the true glory and joy of life."—The Desire of Ages, page 72. How essential is Christian education? "Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore get wisdom." Prov. 4:7. "The work of education and the work of redemption are one."—Education, page 30. THINK IT THROUGH In addition to the arts and skills, am I overlooking such talents as influence, cooperation, friendliness? "The development of all our powers all that it is possible for us to be as is the first duty we owe to God and to workers for the Master, and we should our fellowmen. No one who is not cultivate every faculty to the highest growing daily in capability and use- degree of perfection, that we may do fulness is fulfilling the purpose of life. the greatest amount of good of which In making a profession of faith in we are capable."—"Christ's Object Les- Christ we pledge ourselves to become sons," pages 329, 330. FOR FURTHER STUDY: "Christ's Object Lessons," pages 327-365. 78 Economics in the Home LESSON 10 ❑ Monday November 29 Part 2 "And he called his ten servants, and delivered them TIME ten pounds, and said unto them, Occupy till I come." Luke 19:13 "Our time belongs to God. Every moment is His, and we are under the most solemn obligation to improve it to• His glory.... "We have no time to waste, no time to devote to selfish pleasure, no time for the indulgence of sin."—Christ's Object Lessons, page 342. Sufficient time is given for every duty God requires of man; therefore, anyone who does not have time to do his duty is doing something that is not his duty. "Parents should allow nothing to prevent them from giving to their children all the time that is necessary to make them understand what it means to obey and trust the Lord fully ."—C ounsels to Teachers, page 129. What should a man do who does not have time for his family? "If he [the father] is engaged in business which almost wholly closes the door of usefulness to his family, he should seek other employment which will not prevent him from devot- ing some time to his children."—The Adventist Home, page 221. What should a mother do who does not have time for her children? "It is the cry of many mothers: 'I •have no time to be with my children.' Then for Christ's sake spend less time on your dress. . . . Neglect to receive and make calls. Neglect to cook an endless variety of dishes. But never, never neglect your children."—The Adventist Home, pages 191, 192. THINK IT THROUGH In the parable of the talents upon what did success depend? Matt. 25:21. Success in any line depends on the to it. One reason why so many homes time devoted to it. A student must are breaking up today is that so little spend time with his lessons if he is to time is spent in companionship. learn anything. A professional person "Let parents devote the evenings to must spend time with his profession if their families. Lay off care and per- he is to serve others. No business can plexity with the labors of the day." succeed unless time is given to it. No —"The Adventist Home," page 192. home can succeed unless time is given FOR FURTHER STUDY: "Christ's Object Lessons," pages 345-349. 79 Economics in the Home LESSON 10 ❑ Tuesday November 30 Part 3 "To everything there is a season, and a time to every HAVE A SCHEDULE purpose under the heaven." Eccl. 3:1 One of the relentless things about life is that it is passing. Time spends itself no matter what we do with it. It moves at its own pace, and we can't "save" any part of it. The only part we play in its passing is the purpose to which we put it. We can waste it or use it well; we can fill it full or leave it empty and idle. We can use it for the right things or for the wrong things. What does the wise man say about time? Eccl. 8:5, last part. Every successful business has a definite program, a schedule. Every successful home must have the same. Inasmuch as some responsibilities require more time than others and all of us are tempted to spend more time with certain duties than with others, a budget should be made before the schedule is started. What should the slow, careless worker do? "There is no excuse for slow bungling at work of any char- acter. . . . The one who is slow and who works at a disad- vantage should realize that these are faults to be corrected. He needs to exercise his mind in planning how to use the time so as to secure the best results."--Christ's Object Lessons, page 344. THINK IT THROUGH How much time do I waste in doing things that don't mean much to me or to anyone else? Am I putting off doing the important things of life while waiting for "a more convenient season"? "It is the duty of every Christian to plan so as to save time. By their slow, acquire habits of order, thoroughness, dilatory ways they make much work and dispatch.... When one is always out of very little. But all who will, may at work and the work is never done, it overcome these fussy, lingering habits. is because mind and heart are not put In their work let them have a definite into the labor.... By tact and method, aim. Decide how long a time is re- some will accomplish as much in five quired for a given task, and then bend hours as others do in ten. Some who every effort toward accomplishing the are engaged in domestic labor are al- work in the given time."—"Christ's Ob- ways at work not because they have ject Lessons," page 344. so much to do but because they do not FOR FURTHER STUDY: "Child Guidance," pages 110-112; "The Adventist Home," pages 190-194. 80 Economics in the Home LESSON 10 ❑ Wednesday December 1 Part 4 "Thou shalt remember the Lord thy God: for it is He EARNING MONEY that giveth thee power to get wealth." Deut. 8:18 The money one earns goes into his pocket. The money one spends becomes in a very real way a part of his character. A Christian parent should teach his child how to earn and to spend money. In the hands of a Christian money can be a bless- ing to himself and to others. Man is to earn his living. Gen. 3:19. God promises to give the power but not the wealth. Deut. 8:18. One should work for what he gets. If he does not work, he should not eat. 2 Thess. 3:10. When should the training for life's responsibilities begin? Prov. 22:6. "As soon as strength and reasoning power are sufficiently developed, he [the child] should be given duties to perform in the home."—The Ministry of Healing, page 401. How can a child earn money? The home is the ideal place. Mother is the employer and the child is the employee. Mother may make out a list of certain work a child can do in the kitchen, dining room, laun- dry, yard, garden, and elsewhere and assign a point value to each item and a cash value to each point. For example: Wash dishes 2 Care for garbage 1 Dry dishes 1 Sweep kitchen 1 Wash pots and pans 2 Selecting the job himself gives the child a greater desire to do his best, and so he learns more. Mother inspects the work done and records the number of points earned each day. At the end of the week she totals the number of points and mul- tiplies this by the cash value and pays the employee in full. A little work gets little pay. A child is not to be paid for every- thing he does around the house, but he receives pay only for the chores stipulated in the agreement. He is a regular em- ployee in this home-school and is paid in accordance with the business agreement made at the beginning of the week. THINK IT THROUGH What should the individual do when he is unem- ployed? "Many who through diligent labor fast purpose opens the door to a thou- might have been a blessing to the sand temptations."—"Christ's Object world, have been ruined through idle- Lessons," page 345. ness. Lack of employment and of stead- FOR FURTHER STUDY: "Christ's Object Lessons," pages 354, 355; "Child Guidance." pages 122-127. 81 Economics in the Home LESSON 10 ❑ Thursday December 2 Part 5 "Render therefore unto Caesar the things which are SPENDING MONEY Caesar's; and unto God the things that are God's." Matt. 22:21 Parents should teach the child how to spend his money. This calls for a budget. A budget neither takes from nor adds to the amount, but it does enable one to spend economically. One way of teaching a child how to budget his money is to divide his earnings into four parts. PART ONE is for God—tithes and offerings. The child should be taught that God comes first in his money and in his affections. After tithe come offerings such as Sabbath School offerings and other church funds. PART TWO is used to supply personal needs. We might begin with one inexpensive article of clothing. By the time he is in his teens, he should be able to buy all his own clothes with the money allowed. What is the difference between a debt and an investment? PART THREE is for a savings account. No business is secure without some capital, and no home is secure without a savings account. This is just the opposite of the charge ac- count, which often costs a couple more than they realize in interest, besides tempting them to overspend. What instruction is given in the Bible concerning debt? Rom. 13:8. "We should shun debt as we should shun the leprosy."— Testimonies, Vol. 6, p. 217. Debt is a handicap. It causes fric- tion between husband and wife. It is worth the effort to pay off the debts and start a savings account. PART FOUR is the personal allowance. If every dime is tagged, the child is likely to get the idea that money is simply to be passed on to someone else. But if he sees that twenty-five cents out of every dollar is his to spend as he pleases, he begins to realize that money has value. He may make some poor investments, but better lose a few quarters now than many dollars later. A child learns to spend money by using it. Each adult should have a personal allowance. After our obligations to God and to man are cared for and something laid away for emergencies, the remainder should be divided between husband and wife. THINK IT THROUGH How does money spending reveal character? "Money has great value, because it sick. But money is of no more value can do great good. In the hands of than sand, only as it is put to use in God's children it is food for the hungry, providing for the necessities of life, in drink for the thirsty, and clothing for blessing others, and advancing the the naked. It is a defense for the op- cause of Christ."—"Christ's Object Les- pressed, and a means of help to the sons," page 351. FOR FURTHER STUDY: "The Adventist Home," pages 367-398. 82 Economics in the Home LESSON 10 ❑ Friday December 3 Part 6 "And they did all eat, and were filled: and they took PRACTICE up of the fragments that remained twelve baskets full." ECONOMY Matt. 14:20 "There is a lesson for us in the feeding of the five thou- sand."—Child Guidance, page 135. "Nothing that can be utilized should be thrown away. This will require wisdom, and forethought, and constant care." —Ibid. Good wholesome food should not be thrown away; neither should we overeat of it. An impoverished diet is poor economy regardless of the price paid. Why should children learn to economize? "Teach your children that God has a claim upon all they possess, and that nothing can ever cancel this claim; all they have is theirs only in trust, to prove whether they will be obedient. . . . Habits of economy, industry, and sobriety are, even in this world, a better portion for you and your children than a rich dowry."—Ibid., p. 134. One way of teaching econ- omy in time is to have everything returned to its place when not in use. Hours are wasted in looking for lost articles. Equally necessary is it to have a time (a schedule) for regular family routine. What kind of toys should be given to children? "Do not give the children playthings that are easily broken. To do this is to teach lessons in destructiveness. Let them have a few playthings, and let these be strong and durable. Such suggestions, small though they may seem, mean much in the education of the child."—Counsels to Teachers, page 123. When he grows older a child should learn to repair his toys. Small repairs mean large savings. "The inability to save, in little things, is one reason why so many families suffer for lack of the necessities of life."—Ibid., p. 135. THINK IT THROUGH How do some people use the time that others waste? "A few moments here and a few plished. A resolute purpose, persistent there, that might be frittered away in industry, and careful economy of time, aimless talk; the morning hours so will enable men to acquire knowledge often wasted in bed; . . . the moments and mental discipline which will qual- of waiting . .. —if a book were kept at ify them for almost any position of in- hand, and these fragments of time were fluence and usefulness."—"Christ's Ob- improved in study, reading, or careful ject lessons," page 343. thought, what might not be accom- FOR FURTHER STUDY: "Child GuidanCe," pages 101, 102, 134-136; "The Adventist Home," pages 381-385. 83 Economics in the Home LESSON 10 Part 7 G SUMMARY QUESTIONS G TO TEST YOUR STUDY POWER 1. Select: Each talent I possess is (a) a gift, (b) a responsibility, (c) an award of merit 2. What is one of the major causes for the breakup of the home today? 3. "It is the duty of every Christian to acquire habits of and 4. How have many been ruined? 5. In what three ways only is money of real value? 6. "The inability to , in little things, is one reason why so many families suffer for lack of the of (The answers are at the bottom of the page.) •a;q `samssaaau :anes (9) :4spuo asnao alp 2matrenpa 'slam° Sumsmq `samssaaau roj 2upamord (g) :ssaumm Onorip (4) :limedmp 'ssautpnorcup 'lap° (g) !dmsumuadmoa m 4uads amp. aP4H (Z) :Appcpsuodsar a (i) :slannsuv 84 LESSON 11 December 11 LOVE, THE HOME'S FOUNDATION 111 "Beloved, let us love one another: for love is of God; and everyone that loveth is born of God, and knoweth God. He that loveth not knoweth not God; for God is love." 1 John 4:7, 8. It no doubt seems trite to suggest that love is the foundation of the home. What is true of any home in this respect is LESSON OUTLINE doubly true of the Christian home. This is an area, however, where we sometimes get 1. Love, the Christian's Mark involved in a swampland of words which John 13:35 we use glibly, often failing really to think through just what we mean by the words. 2. Love Is Concern The fact that in Western countries, and Jer. 31:3 especially in America, the home is many times established as the result of romantic 3. Love Is Responsibility love, sometimes causes us to wonder why Num. 10:31 the excitement and wonder fade with the passing months. Romantic love involves a 4. Love Is Empathy great deal of sentimentality, a "tickle under Eze. 3:15 the fifth rib" type of thing; but, essential and wonderful as that is, it takes a deeper 5. Love Is Knowing and more meaningful love to build a home. John 10:27 It takes a love that will face trials and disappointments, that will endure the strug- 6. An Analysis of Love gles of raising a family. 1 Cor. 13:4-7 Our study this week will explore this kind of love. 85 Love, the Home's Foundation LESSON 11 ❑ Sunday December Part 1 "By this shall all men know that ye are My disciples, LOVE, THE if ye have love one to another." CHRISTIAN'S MARK John 13:35 We sometimes get carried away in studying the mark of the beast and the seal of God, and come to believe that Sab- bath keeping is the supreme indication of our discipleship. While we must not ignore its importance, particularly in the last days, we must heed the words of Christ that the most evident mark of discipleship is love. "Said Jesus: 'Love one another, as I have loved you.' How much? His love cannot be told."—Testimonies, Vol. 1, p. 150. We should love others well enough to give our life for a brother. It is a simple matter to talk about love. But we must be certain of how it is to operate in the Christian life and home What relationship exists between a knowledge oi God and love for others? 1 John 4:7, 8. We should admit proudly that the raising of a family is work of the highest order. The training of children is said to be work of the "nicest" order committed to man. What is said about pure love in relation to the work we do? "Pure love is simple in its operations, and separate from every other principle of action. . . . God considers more with how much love we work, than the amount we do. . . . Love does good and nothing but good. Those who have love beat fruit unto holiness, and in the end everlasting life."—Ellen G. White Comments, The SDA Bible Commentary, Vol. 7, p. 952 THINK IT THROUGH To what extent is my profession of dicipleship cor• roborated by a demonstration of true love t ohers? "Above all things else, let parents be taught is that God is their Father. surround their children with an atmos- This lesson should be given them in phere of cheerfulness, courtesy, and their earliest years. Parents are to real- love. A home where love dwells, and ize that they are responsible before where it is expressed in looks, in God for making their children ac- words, and in acts, is a place where quainted with their heavenly Father. angels delight to manifest their pres- . . . That God is love is to be taught ence."—"The Ministry of Healing," by every lesson."—"Child Guidance," pages 386, 387. page 487. "The first lesson that children are to FOR FURTHER STUDY: "Child _Guidance," pages 258=268. 86 Love, the Home's Foundation LESSON 11 ❑ Monday December 6 Part 2 "The Lord hath appeared of old unto me, saying, Yea, LOVE IS CONCERN I have loved thee with an everlasting love: therefore Jer. 31:3 with loving-kindness have I drawn thee." This text sets in bold relief the first ingredient of true love —CONCERN. It was concern for man's welfare that led God to make the supreme gift to mankind. While the acceptance of this gift must be the free choice of man, God works with man constantly. Jer. 3:13, 14. If we are to be as God wants us to be, this same constant concern must mark our dealings with each other as parents and our dealings with our children. "Neither parents nor children can have peace or happiness or rest of spirit in any false path. But when the fear of God reigns in the heart, combined with love for Jesus, peace and and joy will be felt."—Child Guidance, page 67. Much of Christ's instruction was to show man how to be happy (blessed). Review the Beatitudes, reading "happy" instead of "blessed." Matt. 5:3-12. True love seeks genuine happiness for the children. Child Guidance, page 135, states that true love for children will be expressed by not "indulging their pride, their extravagance, their love of display." Keep this facet of love in mind when we study the ques- tion of discipline in the home, because it is concerned with the growth of the person as an individual. THINK IT THROUGH How can I be sure my dealings with the children and with my life partner stem from love and concern for their welfare rather than from my pride and self- concern? 'Love has a twin sister, which is out love to soften and win, it will have duty. Love and duty stand side by side. a similar result. Duty and love must be Love exercised while duty is neglected blended in order that children may be will make children headstrong, willful, properly disciplined."—"Testimonies," perverse, selfish, and disobedient. If Vol. 3, p. 195. stern duty is left to stand alone with- FOR FURTHER STUDY: "The Adventist Home," pages 50-54. 87 Love, the Home's Foundation LESSON 11 ❑ Tuesday December 7 Part 3 "And he said, Leave us not, I pray thee; forasmuch LOVE IS as thou knowest how we are to encamp in the wilder- RESPONSIBILITY ness, and thou mayest be to us instead of eyes." Num. 10:31 The experience of Moses with Hobab is a clear illustration of the second ingredient to be found where there is genuine love—RESPONSIBILITY. This is another word that can be slipped over carelessly. It is actually the ability to respond to and satisfy a need. It is a primary evidence of God's love to us, that He is able to respond to and satisfy all of our needs. Happy the home which is peopled with those who are will- ing to help and encourage each other. How did Joseph satisfy the material needs of his father and his brethren? Gen. 45:16-28. Even as Joseph showed real love in caring for the brothers who had so terribly wronged him, parents need to accept and strengthen children who have failed. "Do not withdraw your love now. That love and sympathy is needed now as never before. When others look with coldness and put the worst construction upon the misdeeds of your boy, should not the father and mother in pitying tenderness seek to guide his footsteps into safe paths?"—Child Guidance, page 266. Why is it so important for children to receive love from parents and others? "Do not treat your children only with sternness, forgetting . that they are but children. Do not expect them to be perfect. . . . By so doing, you will close the door of access which you might otherwise have to them and will drive them to open a door for injurious influences, for others to poison their young minds."—The Adventist Home, page 196. THINK IT THROUGH How can I best recognize and satisfy the needs of my mate and my children? "Fathers and mothers, in the home traits of character developed in their you are to represent God's disposition. children, and have not had the tender- You are to require obedience, not with ness and wisdom to deal with these a storm of words, but in a kind, loving poor children, whom they have made manner. You are to be so full of com- what they are. . . . But Jesus looks passion that your children will be upon these children with pity and with drawn to you."—"Child Guidance," love, for He sees, He understands from page 259. cause to effect."—"Fundamentals of "Even parents have not understood Christian Education," page 262. how much they are responsible for the FOR FURTHER STUDY: "Education," pages 113, 114. 88 Love, the Home's Foundation LESSON 11 L Wednesday December 8 Part 4 "Then I came to them of the captivity of Tel-abib, that LOVE IS EMPATHY dwelt by the river of Chebar, and I sat where they sat, Eze. 3:15 and remained there astonished among them seven days." Read the first three chapters of Ezekiel to get the setting for this verse, which points out the third ingredient of love— EMPATHY. This word may be unfamiliar to some. The mean- ing here is the ability to put oneself into another's place, and thus better understand why he acts or speaks as he does. What is the secret of Christ's success as our Mediator? Heb. 2:17, 18. In no situation is empathy more important than in the home. It might help to bridge the "generation gap" if children could see the viewpoint of the parents; but let us be realistic and say that parents should also concentrate on developing the ability to see their children's viewpoint. "Let father and mother remember that they themselves are but grown-up children. . . Because of their own mistakes and errors they should learn to deal gently with their erring children. "You may feel annoyed sometimes because your children go contrary to what you have told them. But have you ever thought that many times you go contrary to what the Lord has commanded you to do?"—Child Guidance, pages 264, 265. THINK IT THROUGH What are some of the ways husbands and wives can show empathy for each other? Should parents feel con- cern for their children? "Children need constant watchcare "Administer the rules of the home and tender love. Bind them to your in wisdom and love, not with a rod of hearts, and keep the love as well as iron. Children will respond with will- the fear of God before them. Fathers ing obedience to the rule of love. Com- and mothers do not control their own mend your children whenever you can. spirit and therefore are not fit to gov- . . . Remember that children need not ern others. . . . You have yet to learn only reproof and correction, but also to do justly and love mercy, as well as encouragement and commendation, the to walk humbly with God."—"Testi- pleasant sunshine of kind words."— monies," Vol. 4, p. 621. "Counsels to Teachers," page 114. FOR FURTHER STUDY: "Testimonies," Vol. 3, pp. 133-136. 89 Love, the Home's Foundation LESSON 11 ❑ Thursday December 9 Part 5 "Like as a father pitieth his children, so the Lord LOVE IS KNOWING pitieth them that fear Him. For He knoweth our frame; Psalm 103:13,14 He remembereth that we are dust." Read also Psalm 139:1-18. Few relationships known to man more meaningfully picture God's love for His people than a father's love for his children. One reason given for this love is that God knows us. Knowledge of man's frailty and weakness seems to make an added appeal, if any were needed, to the heart of God in man's behalf—an appeal human parents well understand when they are entrusted with the life of a helpless infant. Note the characteristics of a father's love in the story of the prodigal son. Luke 15:11-32. This fourth ingredient of love is superlatively illustrated in this story. Read comments in Testimonies, Vol. 3, pp. 102, 103, and in Christ's Object Lessons, pages- 198-211. As parents we need to know our children well enough to recognize their shortcomings but nevertheless to give them affection and understanding. Self-knowledge on the part of parents is also essential, that positive traits of character may be developed and weaknesses overcome. This experience came to Enoch after the birth of his first son: "The closer the connection with God, the deeper was the sense of his own weakness and imperfection."—Pa- triarchs and Prophets, page 85. See also page 84. "Day by day you may make advancement in self-knowl- edge. Day by day you may learn better how to strengthen your weak points of character. The Lord Jesus will be your light, your strength, . . . because you yield the will to His will."—The Adventist Home, pages 95, 96. THINK IT THROUGH How may I be sure that my love for my family is based on a knowledge of myself and of the family members? "I see the necessity of parents deal- demands continual advancement in her ing in the wisdom of Christ with their own life, in order that she may lead erring children. . . . It is the unpromis- her children to higher and still higher ing ones who need the greatest pa- attainments. But Satan lays his plans tience and kindness, the most tender to secure the souls of both parents and sympathy. . . . Let the hearts of parents children. Mothers are drawn away be softened by the grace of Christ, and from the duties of home and the care- His love will find a way to the heart." ful training of their little ones, to the —"Child Guidance," page 260. service of self and the world."—"Ibid.," "The mother's work is such .that it p. 7L FOR FURTHER STUDY: "SDA Bible Commentary," Vol. 6, pp. 780-783. 90 Love, the Home's Foundation LESSON 11 Friday December 10 Part 6 "Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth AN ANALYSIS not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, doth not OF LOVE behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil; rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth; beareth all things, believeth 1 Cor. 13:4-7 all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things." The description in these verses does not define love, but it does describe the person who loves. The concept of love we have been studying this week, when made a part of the life, makes possible this description of the person who truly loves. What part does love play in determining personal behavior? "Up through the roots of his affection for Christ springs an unselfish interest in his brethren. Love imparts to its possessor grace, propriety, and comeliness of deportment. It illuminates the countenance and subdues the voice; it refines and elevates the entire being."—Gospel Workers, page 123. "Love is power. Intellectual and moral strength are involved in this principle, and cannot be separated from it. . . . The excellence and value of pure love consist in its efficiency to do good, and to do nothing else than good. Whatsoever is done out of pure love, be it ever so little or contemptible in the sight of men, is wholly fruitful; for God regards more with how much love one worketh than the amount he doeth."— Testimonies, Vol. 2, p. 135. How does Christ's description of the Good Shepherd paint a picture of love? John 10:1-10. THINK IT THROUGH In what ways has my life revealed true love to my family during the past week? How should a person look at 1 Corinthians 13—as a code to follow, or as a basis for forming a right character? "The door of the mind should be "The Bible enjoins courtesy, and it closed against 'they say' or 'I have presents many illustrations of the un- heard.' Why should we not, instead of selfish spirit, the gentle grace, the win- allowing jealousy or evil surmising to some temper, that characterize true come into our hearts, go to our breth- politeness. These are but reflections of ren, and, after frankly but kindly set- the character of Christ. All the real ten- ting before them the things we have derness and courtesy in the world, heard detrimental to their character even among those who do not acknowl- and influence, pray with and for edge His name, is from Him. And He them?"—Ellen G. White Comments, desires these characteristics to be per- "SDA Bible Commentary," Vol. 3, p. fectly reflected in His children."—"Edu- 1163. cation," pages 241, 242. 91 Love, the Home's Foundation LESSON 11 Part 7 <> SUMMARY QUESTIONS <> TO TEST YOUR STUDY POWER 1. Love is the of discipleship. 2. What is the first ingredient of true love? 3. Responsibility is the ability to to and another's needs. 4. A word to describe putting oneself in another's place is 5. "I see the necessity of parents dealing in the of Christ with their children " 6. "Love imparts to its possessor and of deportment." (The answers are at the bottom of the page.) •ssautIawoo 'Appdosd ‘asesS (9) :21up1a ‘tuopspe (g) :Atpedura (t) :Ajspes 'puodsai (g) !11.1031103 (g) !Ise; so spew (i) :wasssuty 92 LESSON 12 December 18 GIVING, THE GREATEST JOY 12 "1 have showed you all things, how that so laboring ye ought to support the weak, and to remember the words of the Lord Jesus, how He said, It is more blessed to give than to receive." Acts 20:35. These were no idle words spoken by This week we shall study the act of giv- Jesus, and they were not the afterthought ing, to discover Christ's meaning and above to some point of great importance. They all to learn how we may exemplify His express one of the great principles of life. teaching in our lives and pass along these A failure to learn this principle can deprive precepts to our children. a person of the primary source of happi- ness. Because Christ came to earth to teach LESSON OUTLINE men to be happy, He spoke often of love. But to define love is to suggest that love 1. The Father—Giver Supreme is primarily giving, not receiving. John 3:16 "Love means having all the powers of one's being disciplined, and devoted in all 2. Giving as an Expression of their keenness and strength and maturity, Love's Power to the one loved; and that, too, through Acts 3:6 all the long years until the web of life is fully woven. This is God's secret of life. 3. Self, the Greatest Gift And this is the one secret of the true Matt. 16:24, 25 home. Such love shows itself, not only in the gripping, driving purpose, but in a 4. Give Me Thine Heart thousand little ways. It will be felt in all Prov. 23:26 the planning, in money affairs, in the punctual fitting into the home schedule, in 5. Give of Your Talents thoughtfulness about little things, in word, Prov. 2:3-5 and act, and look, and very presence."— Gordon, Quiet Talks on Home Ideals, pages 6. Give of Your Means 107, 108. 2 Cor. 9:6, 7 93 Giving, the Greatest Joy LESSON 12. ❑ Sunday December 12 Part 1 "For God so loved the world, that He gave His only- THE FATHER— begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in Him should GIVER SUPREME not perish, but have everlasting life." John 3:16 Christ came to this world to save man, but in order to do this He had to portray the Father as He was in truth. God was popularly pictured as a stern, unrelenting Judge, waiting only for an opportunity to destroy. But Christ showed the Father as loving His creatures so supremely that He emptied all of heaven for their salvation. The sense of giving as the great expression of love could not be more clearly shown. Be- cause love is the very atmosphere of heaven, and love is giving, Christ was anxious to teach men that only by giving can they truly demonstrate love. How did Christ, the Son, cooperate with the Father in this great gift? Phil. 2:5-8. THINK IT THROUGH In what ways might I teach my children, in a prac- tical sense, the truth of God's Gift as the great expression of His love? "Like the wise men of old, you may Satan's purpose to bring about an eter- offer to God your best gifts and show nal separation between God and man; by your offerings to Him that you ap- but in Christ we- become more closely preciate His Gift to a sinful world. Set united to God than if we had never your children's thoughts running in a fallen. In taking our nature, the Saviour new, unselfish channel by inciting them has bound Himself to humanity by a tie to present offerings to God for the gift that is never to be broken. Through the of His only-begotten Son."—"The Ad- eternal ages He is linked with us. . . . ventist Home," page 481. He gave Him not only to bear our sins, "By His life and His death, Christ has and to die- as our sacrifice; He gave achieved even more than recovery from Him to the fallen race."—"The Desire the- ruin wrought through, sin. It was of Ages/' page -25. FOR FURTHER STUDY: "The Desire of Ages," pages 19-26. 94 Giving, the Greatest Joy LESSON 12 ❑ Monday December 13 Part 2 "Then Peter said, Silver and gold have I none; but GIVING AS AN such as I have give I thee: In the name of Jesus Christ EXPRESSION OF of Nazareth rise up and walk." LOVE'S POWER Acts 3:6 Our thoughts on giving are quite naturally connected with the question of stewardship, and stewardship is too often re- lated quite largely to money. The giving we shall discuss this week includes the money we give for the support of all worthy causes in God's work, but it is not limited to that. The experience of Peter in healing the lame man is a fine illustration. The great joy in giving comes from the ability to do or to serve, to inspire or to sympathize. Mention some examples of Jesus' gifts of teaching, healing, and blessing. Luke 8; John 8. What is said about the greatest joy for angels? "The angels of glory find their joy in giving."—The Desire of Ages, page 21. What characteristics are suggested as the elements of the power of love? "Christian courtesy . . . has power to soften natures which would grow hard and rough without it. The cultivation of a uniform courtesy, a willingness to do by others as we would like them to do by us, would banish half the ills of life."—The Adventist Home, page 421. THINK IT THROUGH What evidences of the power of love do my children and others see in my life? "The golden rule is the principle of "Above all things, parents should true courtesy, and its truest illustration surround their children with an atmos- is seen in the life and character of phere of cheerfulness, courtesy, and Jesus. Oh, what rays of softness and love. A home where love dwells and beauty shone forth in the daily life of where it finds expression in looks, in our Saviour! What sweetness flowed words, in acts, is a place where angels from His very presence! The same spirit delight to dwell. Parents, let the sun- will be revealed in His children. Those shine of love, cheer, and happy content with whom Christ dwells will be sur- enter your own hearts, and let its sweet rounded with a divine atmosphere. influence pervade the home. Manifest Their white robes of purity will be fra- a kindly, forbearing spirit, and encour- grant with perfume from the garden age the same in your children, cultivat- of the Lord. Their faces will reflect ing all those graces that will brighten light from His, brightening the path for the home life."—"Counsels to Teach- stumbling and weary feet."—"Thoughts ers," page 115. From the Mount of Blessing," page 135. FOR FURTHER STUDY: "The Adventist Home ," pages 421-429. 95 Giving, the Greatest Joy LESSON 12 0 Tuesday December 14 Part 3 "Then said Jesus unto His disciples, If any man will SELF, THE come after Me, let him deny himself, and take up his GREATEST GIFT cross, and follow Me. For whosoever will save his life shall lose it: and whosoever will lose his life for My sake Maft. 16:24, 25 shall find it." The greatest gift we can give to Christ, or to others, is the gift of self. The person who enters into marriage with reservations, not giving himself wholly to his companion, is doomed to disappointment. The person who does not give of himself freely to his children is depriving them of a real need and cheating himself of true joy. What type of consecration did Paul recommend? 1 Thess. 5:23. Note the comment in Counsels to Teachers, page 249, about the meaning of giving ourselves and the taking of Christ's cross: "It is the will of God that each professing Christian shall perfect a character after the divine similitude. By studying the character of Christ revealed in the Bible, by practicing His virtues, the believer will be changed into the same likeness of goodness and mercy. Christ'iigroa • of self--cliiiiaraftd—s-aFrifice brought into the daily life will develop the faith that works by love and purifies the soul." What message is sent to young people on this sub- ject? "His death ought to stir every fiber of the being, making us willing to consecrate to His work all that we have and are. As we think of what He has done for us, our hearts should be filled with love."—Messages to Young People, page 315. THINK IT THROUGH How can I find the line between giving myself so completely to my children that they never learn the joys of giving, and teaching them the meaning of giving of one's self? "A great work is to be accomplished together in obedience to the truth. by the setting forth of the saving truths Those who would experience more of of the Bible. This is the means ordained the sanctification of the truth in their of God to stem the tide of moral cor- own souls, should present this truth to ruption in the earth. Christ gave His those who are ignorant of it. Never life to make it possible for man to be will they find a more elevating, en- restored to the image of God. It is the nobling work."—"Counsels to Teach- power of His grace that draws men ers," page 249. FOR FURTHER STUDY: "Education," pages 102-112. 96 Giving, the Greatest Joy LESSON 12 ❑ Wednesday December 15 Part 4 "My son, give Me thine heart, and let thine eyes GIVE ME observe My ways." THINE HEART Prey. 23:26 The greatest gift Christ asks of His followers is the gift of the heart. In more modern language, we would say that He demands the gift of the will. We must surrender the will to Him. And yet, in the surrender, He in effect returns it to us, but now with the assurance that He will strengthen us to use that will in His service. What is the result of looking to the Lord for strength? Isa. 27:5. Of what importance is the will? John 7:17. In the work of the parents in training the children, the will of the parents must be brought into "submission to the will of God."—The Adventist Home, page 213. Youth are espe- cially urged to turn to God in early life (Eccl. 12:1) that "they may grow up into noble manhood and womanhood, notwithstanding the moral pollution that abounds, that cor- rupts so many of the youth at an early age."—Messages to Young People, page 369. THINK IT THROUGH The hope of the parent to see the full surrender of the child's will to Christ, is almost invariably measured by the depth of the parent's surrender, as seen in the life. How does a parent teach the idea of personal surrender to his children? "The 'Lord says to the young, 'My and youth, they will be found faithful son, give Me thine heart.' The Saviour disciples of our Lord."—"Messages to of the world loves to have children and Young People," page 333. youth give their hearts to Him. There "God's invitation comes to each may be a large army of children who youth, 'My son, give Me thine heart; I shall be found faithful to God, because will keep it pure; I will satisfy its long- they walk in the light as Christ is in ings with true happiness.' God loves the light. They will love the Lord Jesus, to make the youth happy, and that is and it will be their delight to please why He would have them give their Him. They will not be impatient if re- hearts into His keeping, that all the proved; but will make glad the heart God-given faculties of the being may of father and mother by their kindness, be kept in a vigorous, healthful condi- their patience, their willingness to do tion. . . . Pure enjoyment will not de- all they can in helping to bear the bur- base one of God's gifts."—"The Advent- dens of daily life. Through childhood ist Home," page 497. FOR FURTHER STUDY: "Messages to Young People," pages 407-410. 97 Giving, the Greatest Joy LESSON 12 ❑ Thursday December 16 Part 5 "Yea, if thou criest after knowledge, and liftest up GIVE OF thy voice for understanding; if thou seekest her as silver, YOUR TALENTS and searchest for her as for hid treasures; then shalt thou understand the fear of the Lord, and find the knowl- Prov. 2:3-5 edge of God." How diligent should the Christian be in seeking the Lord? Jer. 29:13. The knowledge of God demands the concentration of the whole being in seeking and finding Him. Study the parable of the talents (Matt. 25:14-30) for inspiration on the impor- tance of developing every talent lent us by the Lord. "Time, reason, means, strength, mental powers, tenderness of heart—all are gifts from God, entrusted to be used in the great work of blessing humanity. "Some apparently have but few talents, but by diligent trading on their Lord's goods their endowments will be greatly increased."—Ellen G. White Comments, SDA Bible Commen- tary, Vol. 5, p. 1100. The development of talents comprises true education. "Each is to improve his talents to the utmost; and faithfulness in doing this, be the gifts few or many, entitles one to honor." —Child Guidance, pages 293, 294. THINK IT THROUGH How can I teach my child that self-love, self-respect, demands the development of talents, but at the same time their dedication to the service of God and man? "The teacher should not think that He increases our capabilities for ser- all his time is to be spent in the study vice."—"Counsels to Teachers," page of books. By putting into practice what 234. he learns he will obtain more than he "The knowledge of God is not gained will by mere study. As he uses his without mental effort and prayer for knowledge, he will receive more. Some wisdom. Many are convinced that the who have but one talent feel that they precious treasures of the kingdom of can do nothing. They hide their talent God and of Christ are contained in the in the earth, as it were; and because Word. They know also that no earthly they receive no increase, they murmur treasure is gained without painstaking against God. But if they would use the effort. Why should they expect to un- ability given them, their talent would derstand the meaning of the Scriptures double. It is by a faithful use of talents without diligent study?"—"Ibid.," p. that they are multiplied. As we use 461. aright the advantages God gives us, FOR FURTHER STUDY: "The Ministry of Healing," pages 183-200. 98 Giving, the Greatest Joy LESSON 12 ❑ Friday December 17 Part 6 "But this I say, He which soweth sparingly shall reap GIVE OF also sparingly; and he which soweth bountifully shall YOUR MEANS reap also bountifully. Every man according as he pur- poseth in his heart, so let him give; not grudgingly, or 2 Cor. 9:6, 7 of necessity: for God loveth a cheerful giver." We often think of stewardship as the giving of money for God's cause. Yet of all the outward acts of worship, this can be the most meaningless, unless we understand its purpose. Above all we must avoid developing in ourselves or our chil- dren a grudging spirit as we provide means for the church, because when "we impart of our means when we• have not the spirit to give freely, we mock God."—Ellen G. White Comments, SDA Bible Commentary, Vol. 6, p. 1105. By precept and example the children should learn early in life that the tithe is the Lord's and goes to Him automatically, with no consideration as to other possible uses for it. Beyond that, we give offerings to God as He has prospered us. Mal. 3:8-10. How did the psalmist suggest that we approach God's sanctuary? Ps. 96:8. THINK IT THROUGH The offering we bring to God is symbolic of our offer- ing of ourselves to Him. Could it be possible that I am sometimes satisfied with only that symbolic offering? "The light given me now by the Lord the widow.' Blessed is he that consid- is that we are to be careful not to ereth the poor: the Lord will deliver spend our precious time and money him in time of trouble. The Lord will unwisely. Many things may suit our preserve him, and keep him alive; and fancy, but we are to guard against the he shall be blessed upon the earth: and expenditure of money for that which Thou wilt not deliver him unto the will is not bread. We shall need much of his enemies.' He that hath pity upon means to advance the work decidedly the poor lendeth unto the Lord; and in our cities. Everyone is to have a that which he hath given will He pay part to act in the lord's work. Parents him again.' . . . He who makes this are to instruct their children in lessons investment lays up double treasure. of economy, in order that the younger Besides that which, however wisely members of the flock may learn to improved, he must leave at last, he is share the responsibility of supporting amassing wealth for eternity,—that the cause of God at this time."—"Child treasure of character which is the most Guidance," page 134. valuable possession of earth or "'Seek judgment, relieve the op- heaven."—"Education," page 141. pressed, judge the fatherless, plead for FOR FURTHER STUDY: "Testimonies to Ministers," pages 418-425. 99 Giving, the Greatest Joy LESSON 12 Part 7 <> SUMMARY QUESTIONS 0 TO TEST YOUR STUDY POWER 1. God's supreme gift of His Son was an act of for the world. 2. The great joy in giving comes from the ability to do or to , to or to 3. There is no greater gift that man can give to God or to others than the gift of 4. God's request to all, but especially to the youth is, "My son, give Me 1, 5. What comprises true education? 6. God is said to love a giver. (The answers are at the bottom of the page.) InPaall3 (g) !swatel jo watudolanap (g) :;.matt aup.p. ({) :Hastupi (g) .tazppedtuAs 'ai!dsu! 'atuas (g) :anoi (i) :siaiosuv 100 A FORETASTE OF HEAVEN 13 "Happy is that people, that is in such a case: yea, happy is that people, whose God is the Lord." Ps. 144:15. The aim of this lesson is to show how of heaven. It helps me to resist tempta- the home can be a foretaste of heaven. tion; it strengthens my faith in God; it Theory has its place, but each one should reveals what it would be like to live with know what he can do day by day to make the saints in heaven; and it creates within his home a happy place, a place where me a desire to be a true Christian myself. ideals are translated into reality. "Let there be mutual love, mutual forbearance. Then marriage instead of being the end of love, LESSON OUTLINE will be as it were the very beginning of love. The warmth of true friendship, the 1. Be Cheerful love that binds heart to heart, is a foretaste Prov. 17:22 of the joys of heaven."—The Ministry of Healing, .page 360. 2. Be Courteous 1 Peter 3:8 KEY THOUGHTS 1. Home is what you make it. It can be 3. Be Confident the most pleasant place to be or the most 2 Tim. 1:12 miserable. It can be attractive or uninvit- ing. It is what you make it. 4. Be Consistent 2. Being a Christian in the home is a Matt. 6:33 foretaste of heaven. It opens the door to happiness; it enables me to love each mem- 5. Be Companionable ber of my family and to appreciate my 1 John 4:8 home; it challenges me to do my best; and it inspires me to reach perfection. 6. Be Christlike 3. Living with a Christian is a foretaste Luke 2:52 101 A Foretaste of Heaven LESSON 13 ❑ Sunday December /9 Part 1 "A merry heart doeth good like a medicine: but a BE CHEERFUL broken spirit drieth the bones." Pray. 17:22 "The marvelous life-giving power to be found in cheerful- ness" (Education, page 197) should be understood by every Christian family. The muscles are energized to act, the in- tellect is quickened to think, and the soul is charged with ambition to succeed. One can do his best when he is cheerful. What effect does cheerfulness have on children? "Children hate the gloom of clouds and sadness. Their hearts respond to brightness, to cheerfulness, to love."—Child Guidance, page 147. Seldom does a child disobey a cheerful parent. He wants to please. He likes to make his parents happy. He is quick to obey a smile, but slower in responding to a sad, gloomy face. He must hear the same request over and over when the parent is anxious or worried. A cross parent must threaten punishment to get results. The mind is capable of the highest performance when one is cheerful. "Smile, par- ents; smile, teachers. If your heart is sad, let not your face reveal ithe fact."—Ibid., p. 148. What effect does cheerfulness have on one's com- panion? A cheerful wife is the admiration and joy of her husband. She can inspire him to be his best. A sad, tear-stained face kills his desire to make good and usually brings out the mean- est spirit in him. A cheerful husband is the life of the home. He adds health and beauty to his wife. A glum husband can drive a wife to despair. How essential is cheerfulness to salvation? Ps. 13:5, 6; Phil. 4:4. THINK IT THROUGH Would the child who leaves his home in a cheerful frame of mind make better progress in school than the child who is neglected or constantly scolded by his par- ents? "Unless you cultivate a cheerful, be angry, jealous, or envious. It is diffi- happy, grateful frame of mind, Satan cult for a selfish person to have love, will eventually lead you captive at his joy, and peace in his heart. We are will."—"Testimonies," Vol. 1, p. 704. to "forget self, and think of something It is difficult for a cheerful person to cheerful."—"Ibid.," Vol. 2, p. 530. FOR FURTHER STUDY: "Testimonies," Vol. 2, p. 311; Vol. 6, p. 365; Vol. 7, p. 70. 102 A Foretaste of Heaven LESSON 13 Monday December 20 Part 2 "Finally, be ye all of one mind, having compassion BE COURTEOUS one of another, love as brethren, be pitiful, be cour- 1 Peter 3:8 teous." "Christian courtesy should reign in every household."—The Adventist Home, page 421. It is one of the most attractive ways to teach children how to be Christlike. "Gentle man- ners, cheerful conversation, and loving acts will bind the hearts of children to their parents by the silken cords of affec- tion and will do more to make home attractive than the rarest ornaments that can be bought for gold."—Ibid., pp. 426, 427. What is Christian courtesy? "Our Saviour's Sermon on the Mount contains instruction of priceless worth to old and young. It should be often read in the family circle and its precious teachings exemplified in the daily life. The golden rule, 'Whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them,' . . . should be made the law of the family. Those who cherish the spirit of Christ will manifest politeness at home."—Ibid., p. 423. How will Christian courtesy affect teen-agers? "There is great need of the cultivation of true refinement in the home. . . . Truth of heavenly origin never degrades the receiver, never makes him coarse or rough. Truth is softening and refining in its influence. When received into the heart, it makes the youth respectful and polite."—Ibid., p. 422. THINK IT THROUGH How far-reaching is courtesy in the home? "The mission of the home extends are polite, courteous Christians exerts beyond its own members. The Chris- a far-reaching influence for good. tian home is to be an object lesson, Other families will mark the results illustrating the excellence of the true attained by such a home, and will principles of life. Such an illustration follow the example set, in their turn will be a power for good in the world." guarding the home against satanic in- —"The Ministry of Healing," page 352. fluences."—"The Adventist Home," page "The home in which the members 31. FOR FURTHER STUDY: "Testimonies," -Vol. 3, pp. 417, 528, 422; Vol. 9, pp. 193, 189. 103 A Foretaste of Heaven LESSON 13 ❑ Tuesday December 21 Part 3 "For I know whom I have believed, and am per- BE CONFIDENT suaded that He is able to keep that which I have com- 2 Tim. 1:12 mitted unto Him against that day." The Christian can be confident, for he accepts the Word of God as his infallible guide. This is the only way anyone can be confident. Wealth, power, prestige, or location cannot guarantee security. Counsels of men often lead astray, but the Word of God, never. Each person must know for himself what the lionieir for and what his individual responsibilities are to that home. Where does this knowledge originate? John 5:39. How can parents be confident they are giving their child the best kind of training? Christian parents see that the child receives the right train- ing from the beginning of life. "Too much importance cannot be placed on the early training of children. The lessons that the child learns during the first seven years of life have more to do with forming his character than all that it learns in future years."—Child Guidance, page 193. "The Christian mother has her God-appointed work, which she will not neglect if she is closely connected with God."—The Adventist Home, page 234. "The mother's most sacred duty is to her children." —Ibid. "The mother should not accept burdens in the church work which compel her to neglect her children."—Ibid., p. 246. Both the father and the mother must acknowledge that "it is in the home that the education of the child is to begin. . . . He is to learn the lessons that are to guide him throughout life— lessons of respect, obedience, reverence, self-control."—Coun- sels to Teachers, page 107. 1). What kind of education gives confidence? Prov. 9:10. THINK IT THROUGH How can I best teach lessons of respect, obedience, reverence, and self-control? "True education means more than is the harmonious development of the the pursual of a certain course of study. physical, the mental, and the spiritual It means more than a preparation for powers. It prepares the student for the the life that now is. It has to do with joy of service in this world and for the whole being, and with the whole the higher joy of wider service in the period of existence possible to man. It world to come."—"Education," page 13. FOR FURTHER STUDY: "Testimonies," Vol. 5, pp. 609, 479, 333; Vol. 3, pp. 248, 249. 104 A Foretaste of Heaven LESSON 13 ❑ Wednesday December 22 Part 4 "But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and His righ- BE CONSISTENT teousness; and all these things shall be added unto you." Matt. 6:33 Any home without a definite objective will fail of worth- while achievement. Without a purpose there is nothing to achieve. If the main objective is to accumulate wealth, expen- ditures will be cut to the minimum and incomes accelerated to the maximum. If the main desire is to have a hilarious time, work will be forgotten and duties neglected while time is spent in merrymaking. What is the advantage of regularity in the home? "Irregularity has created disorder in your house, and, if continued, will cause your mind to sink into imbecility."— Testimonies, Vol. 4, p. 498. "Irregular hours for eating and sleeping sap the brain forces."—Sons and Daughters of God, page 172. "The laws of nature are the laws of God, and consist of regularity in action."—Letter 120, 1896. "Arrange your work so that you can have your meals at regular hours."— Letter 297, 1904. "Ministers of Christ should possess physical health. To attain this end they must become regular in their habits and adopt a healthful system of living."—Counsels on Health, page 193. How consistent should we be with the discipline of the children? Prov. 22:6. THINK IT THROUGH When should the process of careful living and regular habits begin in earnest? How would the person but re- cently joined to the Lord view his reckless past? "Every Christian home should have government at all."—"Ibid." "To mani- rules."—"The Adventist Home," page fest severity and to be exacting with 305. "A fitful government—at one time children are great mistakes. Uniform holding the lines firmly, and at another firmness and unimpassioned control allowing that which has been con- are necessary to the discipline of every demned—is ruination to a child."— family. Say what you mean calmly, "Ibid.," p. 310. "Unsteadiness in fam- move with consideration, and carry ily government is productive of great out what you say without deviation." harm, in fact is nearly as bad as no —"Testimonies," Vol. 3, p. 532. FOR FURTHER STUDY: "Testimonies," Vol. 5, p. 95; Vol. 7, p. 70; Vol. 1, p. 416. 105 A Foretaste of Heaven LESSON 13 ❑ Thursday December 23 Part 5 "He that loveth not knoweth not God; for God is BE COM- love." PANIONABLE 1 John 4:8 "There are many who regard the expression of love as a weakness, and they maintain a reserve that repels others. . . . We should beware of this error. Love cannot long exist without expression."—The Ministry of Healing, page 360. "Continue the early attentions. In every way encourage each other in fighting the battles of life. Study to advance the hap- piness of each other. . . . The warmth of true friendship, the love that binds heart to heart, is a foretaste of the joys of heaven."—Ibid. Relatives, friends, business, or pleasure should not be allowed to interfere with the family companionship. What is the father's responsibility? "Fathers, spend as much time as possible with your chil- dren."—The Adventist Home, page 222. "Combine affection with authority, kindness and sympathy with firm restraint. Give some of your leisure hours to your children; become acquainted with them; associate with them in their work and in their sports, and win their confidence. Cultivate friendship with them, especially with your sons. In this way you will be a strong influence for good."—The Ministry of Healing, pages 391, 392. What is the mother's opportunity? "Amid all the activities of life the mother's most sacred duty is to her children."—The Adventist Home,. page 234. "No other work can equal hers in importance. She has not, like the artist, to paint a form of beauty upon canvas; nor like the sculptor, to chisel it from marble. . . . It is hers, with the help of God, to develop in a human soul the likeness of the divine." —The Ministry of Healing, page 378. THINK IT THROUGH Am I giving each member of my family the com- panionship I should? "If the children do not find in their tivate that which is noblest in your- parents and in their home that which selves, and be quick to recognize the will satisfy their desire for sympathy good qualities in each other. The con- and companionship, they will look to sciousness of being appreciated is a other sources, where both mind and wonderful stimulus and satisfaction." character may be endangered."—"The —"Ibid.," p. 361. Ministry of Healing," page 389. "Cul- FOR FURTHER STUDY: "Testimonies," Vol. 1, pp. 391, 392; Vol. 5, pp. 108, 109. 106 A Foretaste of Heaven LESSON 13 ❑ Friday December 24 Part 6 "And Jesus increased in wisdom and stature, and in BE CHRISTLIKE favor with God and man." Luke 2:52 "Every child may gain knowledge as Jesus did."—The De- sire of Ages, page 70. He can be given the same kind of care and training Jesus received. Few, indeed, will have poorer par- ents or live in a worse neighborhood. Yet He was "filled with wisdom." His education was the best. His mother taught Him herself from infancy. The Old Testament and nature were His main textbooks. He "increased in stature." His physical needs were cared for. With plenty of work to keep Him busy He grew as a normal boy should. He was "in favor with God." He pleased His heavenly Father in the same way children can please Him today. He was "in favor with man." He was kind and courteous to his playmates and respectful to His elders. Was Jesus a precocious child? "His mind was active and penetrating, with a thoughtful- ness and wisdom beyond His years. Yet His character was beautiful in its symmetry. The powers of mind and body developed gradually, in keeping with the laws of childhood." —Ibid., p. 68. Although He had a tremendous task to perform and had only a limited time in which to accomplish it, He lived the full life of the infant, the child, the teen-ager, and the youth that He might be the perfect example to children as well as to adults. Why does it take a child so long to reach maturity? The growing period is the learning period. Ample time is given to permit the lessons to become fixed habits. Each plateau of learning prepares the child for the next step. True education prepares "the student for the joy of service in this world and for the higher joy of wider service in the world to come."— Education, page 13. THINK IT THROUGH What kind of education am I giving my child? "He who cooperates with the divine an education that cannot be completed purpose in imparting to the youth a in this life, but that will be continued